My gf's father hates me...what do i do??

Question

ok, me and my girlfriend have been goin out for a year and 3 months. im 13 and shes 14. and i have never met her dad cuz he lives far away from me. and he hates me cuz he thinks im a bad kid..and im not. im not a drugee or a street corner kinda kid. i dont know what to do..

Answer 1

You two are so young!

i think its not the right time.

you have never met her dad but how come that her father hates you? how did you know that he thinks that you are bad?

its the matter bet. you and you gf.

talk to your girlfriend. i think shes really scared to her dad.

your girlfriend should do the initiation- how you and her father would meet, so that bad 'issues' about you wud be erased.

Answer 2

Take the time to write him a letter of call him on the phone and talk to him. If you don't take the steps to get to know him, he will never take the steps to get to know you.

Show some maturity, by wanting to get to know him.

Answer 3

Well, the good thing is you're a kid.  There are plenty of times that dads get the wrong impression about boys wanting to date their baby girls.  So, as long as the girl likes you what is he going to do?  Stop her from seeing you?  If that is the case she can always see you at school.  Even at extracurricular activities, I mean if you both belong to the German Club is going to interfere with that.  I don't think so, be kind to him when you see him.  Whatever you do don't try and go out of your way to convince him of anything.  It will seem that you are trying to hide something from him.  The other thing is really...are you planning to marry this girl?  Don't take things so seriously you're still just a kid.

Answer 4

Well I don't know you, but dads are very protective, and rightly so. If and when you meet him, be respectful, say sir (every time), and appear clean, like no long hair. Look him in the eye, don't be obnoxious, that sort of thing. You'll be surprised how fast you can make a guy like you if you act better than the majority of losers out there.

Answer 5

dump her ..... you should have done that from the start....

Answer 6

fight him!

Answer 7

you need to meet up with him and prove him wrong, because if hes never met you before, thats prejudice. so tell your girlfriend you wana make things right because you care about her. good luck!!

Answer 8

Be thankful he lives far away.

Answer 9

well at least you don't have to wonder if he likes you or not...and dad's will warm up to you just don't do anything that will make him not trust you=]

Answer 10

I think he just wants to scare you - it's a father thing, plus since he lives so far away you get more time with her than he does.  So he has to instill fear in you.  Go along with it I bet he will grow to like you more than you think he ever could.  Come on that's his baby girl you got your lips on -- hey and no touching .......  

Answer 11

Don't worry about it!!! Just  be yourself.  At your age, most parents are not really fond of their childs g/f or b/f.  Parents are just protective.  He will come around.... and all that matters is what your g/f thinks of you~

Answer 12

you dont do anything. you know why? if you and your girlfriend both know that you are a nice sweet person then you dont need anybody to tell you different. if he cant aceept you than thats his problem. if you really want him to like you, try sittin down wit him and holdin a conversation with him so he can see what kind of person you really are.

Answer 13

Get use to it.

Answer 14

just stay away from him

talk to your lady about it

Answer 15

of course he hates you! its his job, you have to prove to him (by teling him) how much you love his daughter

Answer 16

try to arrange a meeting between the both of you. As a parent i want to meet the person my child dates and ut shows maturity on your part. even if its a simple phone conversation, he will respect you more. you must make contact to achieve sucess.  

Answer 17

Doesn't matter because you have never met him. You're young anyways. Who knows it you will still be with her in a year from now. But if you are and you get a chance to meet him, be respectful and don't suck up. Strict fathers can smell bull from anywhere. Don't be all over his daughter, maybe hold hands but don't be hugging on her all the time and kissing. It will irritate him. And talk out loud to everyone. Don't whisper to your girl, so many parents hate that. It's rude to them.

Answer 18

oh man... i feel u kid...

theres nuthin u can do.. unless u grow some balls and talk to her father ur self...

atleast they let u guys be together and u should be happy...

i didnt have that chance :(

theyre dumb...

they probobly found out something and now they hate u forever lol

Answer 19

Ask him if he would like to do something sometime and try to get close to him.  Make him think that your not a bad person and you'll be good.  Or write him a letter saying Listen, Im really not a bad kid and i'd like to get to know you better. Your opinion on me means everything because your daughter means everything to me. Please have second thoughts. something like that!!! :D

Answer 20

aren't you a bit young? you have plenty of times to show him your a good kid

Answer 21

find out what you have in common and go with that. my gf's dad and i love soccer and that helped us out. don't be afraid to talk to him, but then again you are only 13   : \

Answer 22

Well, nothing.

Fathers are always jealous of their daughters, it´s as old as Bible.

You just keep being a good kid; when you eventually meet him great him politely and don´t worry about it much... he might change when he gets used to you.

Answer 23

he probably thank she is to young to have a boyfriend i would just let it good for now because you never no he might come around

Answer 24

I believe her dad wants what is best for his daughter so don't take it personal.May be it's better you give her space whenever she's around.

Answer 25

make him like u! treat ur gf good infront of him... just make him accept u like a son

Answer 26

Seeing that you're 13 and she's 14 this can't be thaaat detrimental.. Father's have a way of being very protective of their daughters. Trust me, my dad was one of those "have her back by 9, not a minute later" (as he's cleaning his shotgun barrel..) yes it actually happened several times.. anyway - give it some time.. plan a trip over summer break to go with her to see him.. funny story.. one of my guy friends went to ask his girlfriends dad for permission to marry and her dads answer was.. "REALLY?!, YOU??" .. needless to say they married but 97% of the time no boy or man is good enough for daddys little girl.. its just the way it is..

Answer 27

He hates you because you are the boyfriend.  And he doesn't really hate you, he just doesn't trust you .... because he was a 13 year old once upon a time and knows what can happen.

Answer 28

her dad is protecting his little girl and at 14 its still young to be worrying about dating. he doesnt want to see her get her heart broken or worse yet get pregnant at such a tender young age...he is trying to preserve her innocense as much as he can, but it really has nothing to do with hating you, it just seems that way because he is protecting her.  

Answer 29

Buy a baseball bat and attack him from behind. Do it today.

Answer 30

call in the mafia

Answer 31

do what you can to prove to him that you're not what he thinks he is. Show him that you really do respect and care for his daughter. and if she cares enough about you too then she'll try her best to convince him that you're a good person.

but if he really is a stubborn father, then perhaps you should just slow down and let things run its course. some dads just have a REALLY hard time accepting that their baby girl's have a boyfriend. be patient, and things will flow right.