My gf's mother?need ur opinions?

Question

my gf's mom really hates my gutts,even though there isnt a real reason for her to do so ,but she keeps saying that i affect her daughter and make her dislike her mother and turn against her, but that isnt right, and i really liked her mom until she pushed me out completly, and now she wont allow me to visit them.her dad is cool with me, but her mom keeps rejecting the idea that i exist in her daughter's life. do u think its her fear of losing her daughter ?. ive been with her daughter for 4 years ,and we even knew each other at school,but she never liked me,and called me disrespectful saying that i dont really talk to her in a nice way . i would really like to be a part of her family but her mother is refusing the idea. my gf is my school and college sweetheart and we both work now,she never had anyone before me,so im her first and last since we r planning on getting married, but her mother is acting really bad towards me.i tried everything,i bought her cards on her birthdays, told her i miss seeing her a lot,but all that said she keeps telling her daughter that she hates me .is it her fear since her daughter will end up with me ? if u were in my shoes what would u do? ,i really wanna show her that im a nice person and will love and cherish her daughter forever ,but she cant seem to see that! help ! thanks .

Answer 1

go visit or phone the mum or letter!-

and be like

hi "mums name".>.....<

ive been noticing that you are really avoidng me and you are angry at me constantly - i dont meen to be rude but i dont believe i have done anything wrong - your daughter meens alot to me and were really good friends - if im making you uncomfortable in anyway please let me know so that if what im doing is hurting u then i will stop because right now im so confused and upset because all i want to do is get to know you but you are stopping me - im so sorry if i have ever insulted u or have been rude to you i am not that kind of person and wish to have your blessing on these current circumstances because every thing between you and i is litreally putting me through pain

thanks from ...........  

haha i dunno lol sumthing like that :D

byee!!!

Answer 2

most mothers dont believe that any man is good enough for their daughter, so dont take it personally. Her mother is being unfair by the sounds of things. If your gf loves you then thats all that matters, dont worry about her mother for now, she will realise in time that what you and her daughter have got is real and she will have to just accept it wether she likes it or not. You sound like a really decent guy and her mother should be happy that her daughter is with someone like you because she could be with some drunken jobless woman beater who she refuses to leave and then her mother would actually have a reason to hate him. Maybe your gf needs to have a serious talk with her mother and let her know that you are everything she wants in a man and you have never done anything to hurt her, and just want to be accepted by her family because its making you unhappy. The fact it is bothering you shows you really care for this girl. Good Luck

Answer 3

just let her mom be.

if it's fear she's feeling just let her express it.

what really counts is that you are being honest and that you have no intention of bringing harm to her daughter but love and care.

overtime she'll be able to accept you especially when you bring her a grandchild.

Answer 4

I believe this calls for a good old fashioned sit down. Take her out to eat, let her know exactly how you feel. Ask her whaw she dislikes about you. I know this sounds cliche, but make her feel instead of losing a daughter she's gaining a son. Dude trust me this is exactly whaw you need to do. She will gain respect for you, and even if she doesnt stop completely I think it will lessen. Good luck dude.

Answer 5

Wow. I think, she may be scared that her daughter hasn't gone out in the world and experienced all its had to offer and that may be what she hates, and she doesn't know how to get that across, so instead she hates you.

Not much you can do about that.  

Answer 6

My advice to you is that you don't give up, keep being nice to her daughter. But also, be extra polite and respectful to her mother, no matter what. Always act your best around her mother it shows that you're willing to work this out.  Hope this helps.