My gf found out that I cheated and I don't know what I'm going to do now?

Question

'Said she's known for some time now and she can't stand living with me. I cheated on her 2 years ago, i never told her and I was never going to.

We've been together for 4 years and we have a 5month old girl and my gf is 9 weeks pregnant. So soon? Yea we had a laugh about it 2 weeks ago but that's not the point..

I had never been happier having a family of my own and belonging to one. She's my family and my daughter and the unborn little one. I'm losing that but I need to get them back.

She's taking herself and the kids away from me and I don't know what I will do.

What can I do now? What will I do now?

Answer 1

You have to be honest with yourself, you don't give a hoot about her, otherwise you would have married her the first time she got pregnant.  

Answer 2

I do love you Zac.  You do whatever it takes to get your wife back.  Be there for those children and let them grow up with a father in their life.  The ultimate disrepect to  your children is to cheat on their mother.  You haven't done that since you're daughters was born and don't ever do it again.  If you really want this family you gotta do whatever it takes.

Answer 3

I have a problem with all of this. Usually once a cheater always a cheater. Give her some time and maybe she will come around . She is hurt. Trust is a hard thing to get back. Hope things turn out but maybe it will be a hard lesson to learn.Hope the affair was worth the loss.

Answer 4

jerry...jerrry...jerry

Answer 5

She knows she still can't trust you since you have not come clean to her with all the facts and the facts has to be why you did it and no holding back the way you did it, she will see it in your eyes and know if your saying the truth. Go after her and tell her what an idiot you were and also, are you sure your ready because you will have to hear about this stupidity that you committed for the rest of your life. if you are then go back and fight for her with all your heart.

Answer 6

I'm sorry but I think this needs a bit of a reality check.  You cheated on her - that's unforgivable.  Think about it, if it were the other way round, would you be able to forgive her?  Put yourself in her shoes then see yourself in her light.  On the other hand you could attempt to talk to her, apologise, but personally I don't think any amount of apology is going to save this.  You need to give her time.  

I hope this helps, and good luck.

Answer 7

Let her do her thing! She needs to save her pride. Give her some time and stay not too close. But go on your knees a lot after that and send presents etc. Maybe also good idea to have someone act as a mediator maybe a gf of hers?

Answer 8

that sucks but you should have thought of that before cheating that is for sure.  You better start kissing some serious a** and hope she will love you and forgive you...  Get some counseling if you need too...

Answer 9

That's the consequence that you have to face.   The best thing for you to do is give her some time.   Invite her out to a private place to have a talk how you will change.   To be honest...if this happens to me, I will never ever forgive my husband for cheating on me.   Even though he says that he'll never cheat on me again....trust me....he will if there's a beautiful girl persuading him.  

Good luck!

Answer 10

Offer to go to counseling with her if she is willing.  Sorry dude, that's all I got.  Keep your chin up.

Answer 11

confess to her that u DID cheat on her 2 years ago..convince her that you're not gonna do it again and that you'll try to be the best father those kids can have..

Answer 12

Show her you have learned from it and won't do it again.  It takes a very long time to rebuild trust after this but get expert help.  Also be real with your children when they are old enough and say you did wrong and are sorry.

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