My gf thinks she wont be a good mom?

Question

my gf thinks she wont be a good mom. I keep teling her she will be but she dosent lisiten. im kinda scared to, but she dosent know that. we both keep freaking out because were 16/17. how can i get her to know she will be a good mom?

Answer 1

go to like a k-mart and look at the baby clothes, cribs, ect. kinda get her excited and be like see you'll be a great mom and im here to help you too.

be very supportive and go to parenting classes with her later on in the pregnancy. good luckk :)

Answer 2

If you guys aren't ready to be parents, seriously, consider adoption.

Answer 3

Well just talk it over, if a abortion is what you want then do it, teen pregnancy can break your lifes, but if you trust eachother and think you can do it, then get married and go for it... but next time have her on the pill and you have a condom ;) ok buddy?

Answer 4

She won't believe it until she actually DOES it, and even then, she may still be very nervous about caring for a baby, if she hasn't had any experience with wee ones.  But with time and experience comes confidence.  Just remind her that EVERYONE, at some point, was a "first time mom", and the human race has managed to survive all the mistakes first time moms make :-)  

On a more serious note, though -- a lot of her anxiety may be a very real reaction to not being READY to be a mom -- there are lots of 20-somethings that freak out when they realize they are responsible for another human being for the next 18 years, it's a huge responsibility.  Have you guys talked seriously about placing the baby for adoption?  If, in her heart, she's truly not ready to be a mom, then placing the baby in an open adoption with a family who is yearning for a baby to love may be the best thing for everyone -- her, you and the baby.

Answer 5

Buy her some baby books comfort her tell her you'll help her when she needs it. Just be a good friend and help her.

Answer 6

get an abortion? pathetic advice! to the a$$ who made the first comment!!!!

Answer 7

my first suggestion for you guys would be to give your baby to a loving couple who can't have children (due to infertility or homosexuality). this would be your most selfless option to choose, the baby could have a life that you may not be able to provide them with, and you two could continue your education. if you choose to keep the baby, all i can say is that you should just read up and always be there for eachother. THE ANSWER TO YOUR QUESTION:  honestly, it doesn't sound like shes ready. when she says she doesnt think she'll be a good mom, you can't assure her that she will, maybe she WON'T

Answer 8

get conseling by free programs in your area, they will explain all your need to know

Answer 9

just keep your cool and keep telling her that she'll be a great mom just like how you'll be a great father.

she'll be able to handle it if she knows that you have faith in her.

you're both really awesome to not get an abortion & keep the baby. good luck to you guys, just love your child, i'm sure you'll do great :] <3

Answer 10

Every woman goes through that stage. Questioning if they will be a good mom or not. I went through it at 25. Just keep reassuring her and know that she will do just fine. Good luck and congrats!!!

Answer 11

be there for her. keep encouraging her. let her know that the moment she looks at her child in her arms, the maternal instinct will kick in...some times before then. you guys are still kinda in shock. good for you for not getting an abortion

Answer 12

I wouldn't get an abortion like the other person said. In my opinion, it doesn't sound like you all are ready for kids. Should have thought about that before. Do you know why she thinks that? Try talking to her about it and finding out why. Then tell her all the things that will make her a good mommy.

Good luck with everything!

Answer 13

you should go shopping for books about pregnancy, childbirth, and parenting and read them with her. She will feel better if she is well informed and feels like you're in this as much as she is. Also, you could go shopping for things for the baby and set up a nursery which will make her feel like she's going to be a good mommy. You can tell her that she's going to make a great mother but that all that pressure doesn't  have to fall on just her because you're going to be a great dad. She's already being a good mom by choosing to keep her baby. Good luck!

Answer 14

should have wrapped your willy, but what's done is done. She will be fine once the baby is here. It all just comes natural. Being a mom is the best thing in the world she will learn that soon. Just keep a positive attitude about it that will help her a lot.

I am reading some negative responses to this. 1st kudos on not wanting an abortion. 2nd your lives can still be awesome having kids will for sure make things tougher for a while, but not impossible. Don't listen to stupid people that tell you your lives are over. That's not even close to true.

Answer 15

Hii this is a very hard time. You might think it is all a joke until you find yourself in hold with a baby. The first thing you need to do is to tell your girlfriend you are there for her. Usually the boyfriend will walk out of the relationship because their girlfriend is preganant but you need to be there for her. Tell her she will do great and always stick together and you can even ask your parents for help.

Answer 16

Okay if you guys are that young; abortion would definitely be the solution. However, if you guys don't believe in that, then obviously it's not an option.

But you have to understand that raising a baby is hard, so give it your all. And so I believe you guys can raise this baby and your girlfriend will be a GREAT mother. My mom had me at 17, and I know other people who were young mothers so I really believe you guys can do it. Just give it your all. And really be there for your girlfriend when she needs you.

Good luck!

: )

Answer 17

Teenage pregnancy? Wow, I'm not touching that subject

If you guys aren't ready, like most teenagers, then get an abortion

If you two truly believe you can raise this child, then you need to turn your lives around and give in everything you have to take care of the baby

Answer 18

It sounds like she just isn't ready to be a mother. I mean, becoming a mother would be nerve-wracking at ANY age, let alone as a teenager...

You need to be understanding and encouraging, but don't over do it. Her hormones are already out of wack...

Answer 19

ABORTION = BAD

Srry...had to get that out of the way.

Of course you guys are scared.

But I have a few friends who are/have been teenage moms and they love it. Their child is the most wonderful thing to them. I'm sure she will be a great mom. Yes, it's hard work. But seeing them smile is the most rewarding thing.

Answer 20

It's a natural fear, adults have the same fear and sometimes they plan it. It's natural, only time and experience will help her get over it.

Answer 21

You're not copying this from One Life To Live are you?  Becuase you are describing it EXACTLY, age and everything.

Answer 22

She has some time to get ready, but if she doesn't believe she can do it then why would she keep the baby?  That's cruel and sick.  Adoption.

Answer 23

she can take parenting classes to boost her confidence in herself. She just doesn't believe she is ready to be a mom..