My girlfriend's anxiety/panic attacks and phobia.

Question

I am 25 and my girlfriend is 27, we've been going out for about four months. She has had issues with feeling anxious and has panic attacks when I'm around. As she has a phobia of being sick as well, this is very painful for her so she avoids eating out, drinking etc (basically anything that could possibly make her sick). It has been this way since I've known her. Being a typical male I have only given solutions and haven't been as supportive as I should have been. Her symptoms (continuous) are feeling sick to her stomach, loss of appetite and a general sense of ill-being. This made it hard for her to be happy and communicate. When I see her she is mostly in a state of feeling anxious and panics.

Recently we broke up (we decided to work on it so got back together within a few days) and the night we broke up she went out with friends and found all of these symptoms to dissappear, so she was able to have a good time and get drunk which was a relief for her. Now that we're back together and talked everything through the symptoms have re-appeared.

She says that she wants it to work and that the anxiety is related to her thoughts, not to me. I want to help but am concerned that I am the one causing the anxiety/stress, or the relationship is causing it. I am prepared to do what it takes to work through this but if she despises me and is repressing it then it may not be a good idea.

Sorry about the long explanation, any view on this would be appreciated, thanks!

Answer 1

I have anxiety its the worst thing I could ask for

but it might have to do with the fact that she likes you alot?

idk just saying, maybe you guys should try to be friends then slowly go from there so she can feel confrtable around you.

Answer 2

I don't think you are to blame for her sickness. My question to you is, "Can you spend a lifetime with this women?" You wouldn't be able to eat out, go out, or take walks hand in hand. She needs to get medical help and do it for your relationship. It is a struggle for her, I know, but are you willing to give your life to her disability? More power to you if you are, but you have to go into it with your eyes wide open. Good luck.

Answer 3

Please take this into consideration. It worked for me, although I am not your girlfriend.

I had overwhelming anxiety. It turned out to be my use of Splenda. Yup Splenda. How could something that taste so good, be so bad?



I like to say sucralose, not Splenda, because that is what Splenda is. And it is in a lot of stuff. Sadly, the package doesn't have to say Splenda or diet to have sucralose in it. You have to read labels. So, you might be using it and don't even know it!



Sucralose is poison. It ruined five years of my life. I had a laundry list of medical problems while taking it, including overwhelming anxiety, depression, mood swings, insomnia, gastrointestinal issues and more.

Go ahead, google: anxiety splenda or anxiety sucralose or insomnia splenda or insomnia sucralose



The slogan, "Made from sugar..." is very misleading. Splenda might be made from sugar, but it is far from sugar. The resulting chemical is an organochloride (chlorocarbon). Organochlorides are typically poisons.



carbon monoxide - made from oxygen so its like a breath of fresh air

Answer 4

its true anxiety is thought related and its how your gf views this situation. I too have anxiety and panic attacks.

Answer 5

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