My girlfriend doesn't want to live with my family after marrage ?? what sould i do now ?

Question

also i love my family soooooooooooo much and i can't live without my girlfriend as well

please help sould i left my girlfriend or family ??

Answer 1

if you want to get married then you make her your priority not your family and if you think your family is more important than give her up but just remember the longer you live at home  with your mommy the harder it will be for you to get married or have a serious relationship

Answer 2

I can understand her not wanting to live with your family after your married. I wouldnt want to either. When you get married you begin a new life with your wife in your own home, not in your parents home. The only reason I could say living with your parents would be if you lost your home to a fire or natural distaster. You can still love your family and not live with them. You can always visit your family. I think its time to cut the apron strings..  

Answer 3

if you can't leave your parents door then DON'T get married

I have had to live with my family and my husbands at low points in our 6 years of marriage and I would only recommend living with family when its an emergency.

On our own again and very happy.

Answer 4

hmmm....something tells me you are a troll, but just in case - Get a job and buy a house! Your an adult now. It's fine to love your family, but it's time to grow up. Your girlfriend is well justified in not wanting to live with your family.

Answer 5

While I admire you for your family bond, I need to tell you that as a wife who's husband would choose his MOMMY over me you need to have your own place.  A parent raises their children to become independent adults who go on to have their own lives and families.  Just because you aren't living in the same household does not mean that you won't see your parents.  I'm just telling you that your marriage will be doomed from the beginning, because no matter what you will always tend to listen to what your mother says and make decisions based on her thoughts and not what your wife may have to say about it.  You are starting a new phase in your life and it is time to cut the apron strings.  Let your wife be the woman of the house and make decisions for you and the children you will have.

Answer 6

Rethink about continuing with ur girlfriend.

Answer 7

I can’t blame her.  I would not have wanted to live with my husband’s family, either.  I guarantee our marriage would not have lasted a year!  Being newlyweds is hard enough without the added pressure of moving in with the in-laws!

You don’t have to break up with her, but postpone getting married until you two can afford a place of your own.  

If the idea of moving out of your family’s home has you that upset, you are definitely not ready for marriage.

Answer 8

But the life which had with family members(Parents/brothers& sisters)  from the child wood to till marriage, those will create mental feelings and won't allow us to leave from home location. This should be natural to the personals, who have a real love on parents/ native where they born.

I also facing the same problem, as per the answers given most of them were right in the way of leaving the family and set up a own house nearby... This is really good have own house separately to spare the time with wife/kid and have independent family with own responsibility.Similarly, we can spare the time with parents frequently, but the partner should agree with that..

But i had experience that, i forced by a wife to leave my home by the way of shes not co-operating with the family members/not talking to them and moved a home nearest city... The only reason she had is, ours is a village and the children's will not be perfect in their studies. where i were ready to build a separate house in the village.

BUT SHE NOT READY TO JOIN IN THE VILLAGE.. Is it correct thinking???

Is the village environment is not good and her thinking is correct????

In this world, the parents are equal to the God,as they were make grow  us till we get maturity..Hence those should be very respectable and share with their wishes,likes/dislikes always till our life ends.

Answer 9

i think u r indian it is always difficult for indian man to decide between wife and family. but what if u leave this girl and marry someone else and after that there are daily conflicts in ur family and then for peace u have to leave ur family . atleast now she is honest and u love her . but for ur family u can visit them often with ur wife . may be she like them and take care of them . it is always good to live seperatly with love than living together always fighting.

Answer 10

Grow up! I was 22 when i married my high school sweetheart and Im extremely close with my family, but i knew that i wanted a family of my own. Get a life started with your own...that doesn't mean you shouldn't move close by or visit them often. I live 10 minutes from my family and I atleast go 2 times a week if not more, but i know my duties as wife come first. Bible says...A man will leave his family to join lives with his women and begin a new life...and thats what you should do. if you're not ready to move out than maybe you're not mentally ready to leave your family. Don't put your girl second...when you get married your spouse should be your first priority.

Answer 11

Never marry a lady who wants you to break off from your family who brought you to this world, groomed and bred you.

Its courtesy your family you are here and you are you - they are your roots and remember a tree that is cut off its roots dies and decays, same would be your situation your whole life will be h**l.

One more thing is thank god that your girlfriend showed her true colours of being selfish person. You got a whole life which can be filled with many more girlfriends who woudl be better than your current selfish, selfcentered person.

Answer 12

you should leave your girlfrined because familiy is the biggest wealth in life. if you take decision of leave family then after few months you will relise that you have done biggest mistake in you life so so so think

10000000000000000000000000000000000000... times before taking any decision.

Answer 13

Is this a real question? If it is you are not playing with a full deck.

Either stay at home with your mommy or grow up and be a man and get your own place. If I was a woman I would never consider a man that lived at home....As a man I would never move into a house with my in laws it is unhealthy mentally which makes sense since you are asking the question...

Answer 14

Um....move? What's the big deal? You don't have to move to another state. I live like five minutes away from my mom, and I see her all the time. I actually like her A LOT more now that I've moved out. Our relationship is way better.

Oh, and gOOdgOOd, it goes God, your CHILDREN, your wife, your family, your friends. You obviously don't have kids.  

Answer 15

When you marry you start your own life.. Your girlfriend is right to want to have a place that is just yours.. When you marry her, she'll be your first priority, not your family.  If you're not willing to put her first, then you shouldn't be getting married.

Answer 16

Okay I do not know if you are religious or not, but if you are listen to this. The list goes God, Your WIFE, Your children, Your family, Your friends. You are an adult, you don't need to live under your parents' roof anymore. You and your soon to be wife can make a home of your own. If not a home yet, just start out with an apartment. Get one close to your parents so that you can go see them whenever you want, but for the sake of your marriage and relationship, do not live with your parents!! You can care about them and all that, that doesn't mean you have to live with them forever. Please take my advice if you want to keep your girl, if not by all means go and live with the fambam and see what happens to your marriage, I would not be suprised if she left you for this...

Answer 17

You have got the worst spelling of anyone on YA.  How old are you, 9? Seriously, why not take a National Geographic magazine upstairs and rub one out in your closet?  If you love your family sooooooooooooo much then maybe they will join you, you little freak.

Answer 18

Given the state of your grammar and spelling, living with your parents is probably going to be your only option. Further, if you are basing a marriage on whether you should cut the apron strings and leave your parents home, you have no idea what it takes to be in a loving marriage. Stay home and get an education.

Answer 19

If you two can't afford to live on your own, then you're not ready for marriage.

If you aren't ready to cut the apron strings, then you aren't ready for marriage.

If you are trolling here because you're bored, you're violating CGs, and not mature enough for dating...much less marriage.

Answer 20

Try to explain her about the great benifits of joint family. Also tell her that for you it will be very difficult to coose one of them. Introduce her with all family members, i think she will change her decision.

Answer 21

The Bible says a man shall leave his family for his wife.  No woman on this earth would want (I mean WANT, some WOULD) to live with your family.  A woman wants a life with her husband in THEIR house.  Being too close to family/in-laws is always a bad idea.  If you ever want to get married, leave your family's house!  It doesn't mean you don't love them or won't see them!

Answer 22

Find a place to live her. Time to move out and leave your family and make your own.

Not leave your family 100%. Yea talk on the phone and stuff, visit but let go now. Yea, if ur are talkingabout geting married, chances are your are grown up and can look after your self so leave your family alone for some time

Answer 23

I don't know how old you are or what country you are from, but in this one, generally when people get married they leave their parent's homes and make a new one TOGETHER.  Its time to grow up little man.  If you're old enough to get married, you're old enough to live on your own.

Answer 24

Are you serious you can love your family and not live with them when you get married it is far past time to be out of your parents home you have got to be joking.

Answer 25

Do u mean live like live in the same house as ur family... or live with your family like accept them in her life. Anyway.... when you want to do adult things like get married and have children.... u should expect to leave the nest. Maybe she wants to build her own family and home with u.....

Answer 26

i think u live in india n being an indian i can pretty much understand wat dilemma u r facing!

i juzz wanna point out sumthin here..y is ur gf so insistent?i mean no one lives with one's parents lyk a parasite..you two'd obviously get ur space wid tym..i dont think she should insist so much..if she is being so dominating before marriage n forcing u to choose lyk this i dont think she really loves or she wudnt put u thru this or maybe u havent yet explained to her how torn u r feeling!or even if u choose to b wid her n leave ur parents she'll get all heated up wenever u try n get close to dem...

i think instead of asking us strangers over here its better to sit wid ones u love, be it ur parents or ur gf n try n talk things out instead of being so desparate n trying to choose one option n leave the other.

Answer 27

Sweetie, it's time to grow up and be a man. I'm sure your girlfriend loves your family, but, in my opinion, living with the in-laws is miserable. There's nothing worse than being stuck with people you can't be yourself around. Now, don't get me wrong... I'm not saying she can't be herself around your parents, but I'm sure there will be days that both of you want to just lay around and have some privacy. Living with your parents will not only be stressful for you and her, but it disables you from learning life's lessons. You'll never learn how to support yourself (and your girlfriend!!!) living with your family. I know you love 'em, but it's time to fly the coop!

Answer 28

at the end every member of your family will take their own path and have a life with a loveone who is non related, and you, you'll looked to your side and will see no one, you'll end up alone and a waist.

Its understandable to love your family , but you have to let go sometimes, thats the way the 'cookie crumbles', you need a life too.

and if your girlfriend seems replaceable and unimportant , dump her!

but if she is your one true love , the one person who completes you in every way, go for her!!

I live in Mexico and my boy lives in italy so if we must lead a normal relation i must move to italy to be with him , It will be dificult to ever see my family again, but true love takes you palces you'd never thought to be.

Answer 29

She is right as she wants to lead independent life. What's wrong in that ? Most want independent life. If ur family is dependent on u, naturally u can't leave them to fend for themselves. There r certain obligations which we have to honor and one such thing is family obligation. Family obligations stand above all, then only comes love life. No point in marrying a girl who is not prepared to share ur responsibilities towards ur family.

Answer 30

Believe me if you dont listen to her now there will always be some resent.She has made her mind up already.If you can afford to move out then do so,it will be the best thing you will have done for her.You can go see your family everyday and stay over as well.The love for your family will not die but the wifes love will grow.

Answer 31

In indian culture when a man or woman marry its not between these

two persons only but its like u marry each others family too.

The girl u r talking about is don't wanna stay with your family is not a

homely girl if u r family kind of guy she is not suitable for u any body

answering your question here most of them r from out of india including

me don't like to stay with family after the marriage thats why they r telling u to grow up etc people outside india have no culture.

Just answer a simple question u know how much your family love u

and raised u nicely after u get marry and u have son he don't wants

to stay with u how will u feel.

You can have hundered of girl friends but your family is your blood so

think with cool mind.