My girlfriend doesnt have even close to the same libido as me. would it be unwise for us to be married?

Question

my girlfriend doesn't have a libido that's very...active. maybe once a week..if that. more like every 2 weeks. (i am 20 shes 21) Anyway, i have this feeling that if we got married it would only get worse. would i be correct in feeling this way?

thanks

Answer 1

probbly, look her up when she's 45, You wont feel like it then, tho.

Men and women are sexual in different times of their lives, Start seeing some cougars.  

Answer 2

wedding cake destroys the s*x drive completely.

i would bail, once every two weeks is sad for a 21 year old female.

no offense, but could it be you? women get bored of the 2 min. then snore routine pretty quick.

if you dont do foreplay, and/or oral on her first, i would try it.

Answer 3

It will definately get worse unless she has a medical problem that can be fixed.  I experienced the same thing as you and married her.

Guess what? I've been in a sexless marriage for the past two years and there is nothing I can say or do to get her more sexually active. It just died after having a low libido.

If I knew now what I knew then . . the wedding bells would not have sounded no matter how much I loved her. It's hard to accept there will possibly be no more s*x for the rest of you life unless she died first or a divorce occured.  I do love her and will not divorce.

Answer 4

Tell her that s*x isn't bad or morally incorrect. It's part of human nature to want to mate, every living thing on this planet does so to repopulate and survive as a species. Maybe talking about it with her, might make her open up a bit more. If that doesn't happen then go to counseling with her or watch educational films. Help her get a bit more educated about the subject, I wish you Good Luck!

Answer 5

get her some horny goat weed from the chemist :)

as she gets older..her libido will become more active, yours will lessen, so eventually, you will meet a common ground lol..and s*x is not the be all and end all of a realtionship. theres so much more to it than that :)

Answer 6

SO IF she is so bad why would you want to marry her?.........

Answer 7

well girls are not like guys they dont want it all the time that doesnt mean it will get worse but every girl is diffrent but if your thinking about not want to marry her for just this reason then you have a bigger problem.. me and my fiance go a week sometimes 2 weeks but thats just how it is one week its every night it just depends

Answer 8

I would think that if it was true love it should not matter. It could've been worse... it could be like once a month or so anyway.

Answer 9

If you're doubting marrying your girlfriend because of her libido, then it's probably not going to work anyway x

Answer 10

When you are young and in love you can't keep your hands of the object of your desire. Actually...that applies when you are old and in love! Don't marry her. If she doesn't 'want' you at this stage, she is unlikely to start.

Answer 11

yes, it wont get any better after marriage...

Answer 12

don't marry her bud, if she cant satisfy u sexually then ur marriage will crumble, women need to understand that s*x for men is what the marriage is all about, not kissing and cuddling and all that garbage.

Answer 13

BOTH of your libidos will change during different points in your life.  In the last year there have been times that my bf couldn't keep up with me, and there have been times that I don't want anything to do with it.  These times can last days, weeks, or months.  It's just part of life.  Supposedly, her libido will go up as she nears 30, but I'm in my late 20's, and so far, it has gone down, not up.  But I'm just one person, the rest of my girlfriends have seen an increase in their desire.  I do think that this issue is something you should either fix, or be TOTALLY ok with before you get married though.  The 3 things couples divorce the most over are money, s*x, and kids.  If you don't believe me look it up, it's true!!!  Good luck!!!

Answer 14

Not only is there a libido problem but a communication problem as well.  I think if you two have seriously thought about getting married you might need to reconsider.  It would be wise for you to be able to talk to each other about almost anything before taking such a big step.

Answer 15

Girl's libidos don't really hit their sexual peak until they reach their late 20's/early 30's.  So, as long as you have the patience for it, it will grow.  Of course, if you don't have the patience, start dating other (multiple) girls immediately.