A little background first. My girlfriend and I have been dating exclusively for over a year, albeit long distance (she near Bakersfield, I'm in SF). Things were going great until sometime last week when she kept pressuring me and asking me when we were getting married. I was shocked by this, since I'm only 24 and we've only been dating a year - not necessarily peanuts but way too early for marriage in my opinion. She opined that she is 28, Filipino, and being unmarried at her age was not desirable. I told her we weren't getting married now, but could certainly see it in our future - a perfectly acceptable answer IMO.
Ever since that discussion, things felt a little off. Phone conversations lulled, she didn't say I love you, etc. About a week later, she calls and tells me she thinks she needs a "break" from boyfriends, saying she's had one her whole life and just wants to be alone. She also cites some stress with her moms waning health (which ive been supportive).
Whatever the reason, I'm a chump, as in now single. So, the day after we break up, she sends me numerous text messages saying she misses me and how we need to be strong to get through this? It seems to me like she just needs a break and not a "break-up" per se. My question is, how do I get her back? Do I play the nice, boyfriend, caring type? Or do I shut her out for a few days so I can get on with my life, then let her back in?
Please help!! P.S. I know this shouldn't be technically in the "marriage" section, but I realize there are better answers here, as opposed to the "singles & dating" section.
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