My girlfriend and I have been dating for 6 months, and within the last three months she, or at least it to me appears to be her, has changed. When we first got together she couldn't keep her hands off of me, not necessarily in a sexual manner, but in the idea that she loved to be close to me. I felt this and felt genuinely loved/cared about. We would get romantic, not s*x, but romantic quite often, and she really enjoyed it. She would rub my back to make me feel better and would go out of her way to make sure I was happy.
But approx. three months ago it changed. She began to start avoiding being romantic with me like the plague. She would push me away, say she was tired, work was stressing her out, etc. But this was a direct contradiction to her previous feeling of how the romanticism made her feel relaxed and stress free. She no longer volunteers to give me a back rub or things of that nature, and when I ask her why or whats up how she wants me to massage her, rub her feet, rub her hands, she comes up with some excuse about how the amount of effort for me to do it for her is far less than for her to do it for me. So she requests I continue while she does nothing in return.
I do care about her very much, but my biggest fear is being used again. My two last close encounters of the relationship kind I was used and put away dirty. And she knows this, so I wonder if she has lost the feelings for me and is doing this because she knows I'll give her the world, even though she wont give me a grain of sand.
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