My girlfriend has a son who sleeps at grandmas house alot and they always sleep togeather he is nine?

Question

and there are other beds in the home is this healthy and at what age should it stop

Answer 1

you shouldnt worry about it.If it was a stranger then of course panic.But its grandma so chill out!My little girl she is 11 and she likes sleeping over my grandmas house.Thiers nothing wrong with it!

Answer 2

Well being a mom myself I too would love to have my kids to sleep with me but I have realized that as hard as it is I had to slowly cut the ambilical cord (so to speak) but if it was up to me they will always be with me, but I want him to be come a man not a momma's boy so she better be careful she does not want to baby him much longer.

As far as for you handling it just stay out of it don't make a big deal about it it is her kid  and no one can change that (put yourself in her shoes, you might do things differently but there could be something you would not want to change just for alittle bit longer).

Just be patient and do your best to deal with this, or find you someone with no kids. Good Luck!!!

Answer 3

When I stayed at my grandma's I slept in her bed.  My grandfather had already passed.  She passed when I was 8 but I stayed with her just a few months before.

Answer 4

Eric, chill out.  He's nine, not nineteen.  It's normal dude.

Answer 5

Ignore Stormy, if you read her past questions you'll see how judgmental, self-righteous and insulting she is. First of all this kid is at an age where he is going to start getting erections in his sleep. I'm not saying anything sexual is going on between them, but imagine a boy getting an erection in bed with his grandma. That can't be good for his mental development. You're right to be concerned and if harm is coming to a child, it is your business. You might mention the thing about the erections to your girlfriend, hopefully it will shock her into putting an end to this behavior. You could always send an anonymous letter to grandma. She's probably well intentioned, but the whole thing is creepy. It needs to stop. Good for you for being concerned.

Answer 6

sleeping arrangements concerning your girlfriend's child and the grandparents is none of your business.  You're not related to the child so you have no say in the matter anyway.

Answer 7

That is fine I remember going to Grandmas and sleeping in her bed when I was 8 or 9. Know my son used to sleep in grandmas bed but as he got older he liked to sleep in a spare room. He is know 11 my daughter still sleeps in Grandmas bed when she visit s she will be 10. I don't think there is any harm in it.

Answer 8

It is probably just a treat. My daughter is 8 and loves when she gets to fall asleep in bed with my husband and I.

Answer 9

he should start to try and stop now like some days in there bed and other days in his own bed

Answer 10

It should have stopped at about 6 I would say.

Answer 11

I don't see anything wrong as long as they are both okay with it. I suspect the son won't want to sleep in the same bed soon, but I'd let him decide when it stops.

Answer 12

They're his grandparents! Grandparents are made to make there grandkids feel extra special. He's only nine and there is nothing wrong with him sleeping in the bed with his grandparents.

Answer 13

I think 9 is too old.  I would think by age 6 he would have wanted to sleep by himself.

Is he afraid to sleep by himself in her house?  

She could be "trying" to keep him a baby.

I am sure it is harmless and he will get over it as he gets a little older.

Answer 14

it should stop nowwwww ok tell him go sleep in your own bad  call him a baby and iam sure he will lising lol

Answer 15

It should be up to the child. Nine years old is still a child in so many ways, and children have the same needs for comfort and physical closeness to loved ones that everyone else does. I've heard grown men say they can't bear to sleep without their wives because they get *lonely* and yet they expect their children to sleep alone. It's just absurd. Our culture is one of the only ones in the world that expects people to be so d**n disconnected from each other and from loved ones, that a kid can't even snuggle with his grandma at night while sleeping, without people getting all excited about it. The perversity is in those who are imagining that it's perverse, not in the innocent child.

Man, I feel so sorry for most kids in our culture. We're raising them to be unfeeling, bitter, emotionally stunted adults. It's very sad.

Answer 16

Well I mean this might be different because I am a girl and all but whenever I went over to my grandparents house I always slept with them in their bed. I mean at a point I decided I wanted to sleep in my own bed that was there. I do not find a child sleeping with their grandparents a problem, it is like a kid sleeping with his or her mom or dad.

Answer 17

O its normal not bad around 11 -12 he'll get tired of gram and think shes not as cool