My girlfriend is pregnant but we are to young for a baby would it cost us to put the baby into foster care?

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My girlfriend is pregnant but we are to young for a baby would it cost us to put the baby into foster care?

Answer 1

you can not listen to all these people they should not be giving advice this serious on a answer website! you have to discuss EVERYTHING with your partner and look for help people are out there to help, there are alot of couples who find themselves in the same position. Whatever decision you both make I'm sure it will be the most informed and right one for your child.

Answer 2

I am not 100% sure.  I really don't think it will cost anything. Now is the time to start looking into that.  

Answer 3

No i dont think it will cost you anything...

Well done thinking about giving your baby up for adoption and not having an abortion.

Good luck

Answer 4

I don't think it costs you, but if you have no interest in raising the baby, adoption would be kinder.  It is free for that too, people are crying out for babies!

I won't lie to you, the bond that a mother has with a baby will make it the hardest thing your girlfriend has ever done - and even if she does manage to go through with it, not a day will go by when you will not wonder about the child you both gave up.

You say you are too young?  How young?  

You need to think this one over thoroughly, and I wish you both luck in doing it.

Answer 5

no it doesnt but think about the choice you make cuz once you give your baby up you cant get it back. try to see if a relative would care 4 the baby till u guys r stable good luck

Answer 6

No it wont cost you but is this what you REALLY both want? Have you discussed this with your girlfriend?

How young is too young? I'm nearly 30 and I am still not ready for a baby not sure I ever will be. But as this has happened to you both you need to talk to each other and your families before making any rash decisions.

I don't want to lecture but for future reference use a condom and this will eliminate having to ask these questions.  

Answer 7

Adoption doesn't cost anything.  When you make the choice, contact social services and ask for your child to be put in care, to therefore be adopted.  My family were foster carers for along time, and they did get new borns.

It is a choice that you and your partner must make together! But in future wear a condom!

Answer 8

Don't think so, but from what I've heard about the foster care system in the U.S., I wouldn't recommend it.

Try adoption.  Look around.  If you really want to be radical, find some parents on your own.  The norm has been to keep the biological and adoptive parents separated, but that, when you think about it, is kind of cruel.  The kid is gonna' grow up and want to know his/her real parents and want to know the story and is gonna' feel guilty about being abandoned.  So, why not have adoptive parents that are willing to introduce teenage Jenny/Johnie to her/his biological mom?

It's a more compassionate way.

Answer 9

...once you put your kids into the system its very hard to get rid of the system and itll follow you all of their years up until the age of 18..

i would go for adoption.

Answer 10

i swear young girls 13-17 are seriously retarted when they get pregnant. they have to have the baby when they know they cant take care of it or afford it... do adoption dumb tricks

Answer 11

It won't cost anything financially. But emotionally.......thats a different story. Make sure you're both totally sure before you make a decision. Good luck to you both.

Answer 12

foster care is not such a good idea as it would give little stability in your child's life unless it was in long stay foster home.adoption would be a better option.but are you really sure of all the options open to you and your girlfriend.you`ve not said how old you are or how far gone in the pregnancy she is.here are some options.

termination

keeping the child and bring the child up alone(together)

keeping the child and asking your parents to help you(you might be surprise at the help and support,emotionally and/or financially they can give you.)

having you baby and letting a family member bring it up.

i don`t live in america so i don`t know what sort of help setup there is for people your age but in england there are several organizationss that will support you to keep the baby,help you to deal with the day to day routine of bringing up a baby help in finding you a way to stay together as a family because that is what you and your girlfriend are now.

whatever you decide to do you must think very carefully because this is a decision that will affect you for the rest of your life's.speak to someone get advice,speak to people who been in the same situation ask how they felt once they made their decision and how they live with the consequences?.either way whatever you decide i hope it will be the right decision for you both.i wish you luck and am glad not to be in your shoes

Answer 13

You don't want to put your baby in foster care... You want to put it up for adoption. In foster care the baby would be tossed around to house to house till someone wanted it, it wouldn't be fair for the baby. There are a lot of families that in line to adopt a baby that can't have one of their own.

35 weeks. Thanks for not just going to get an abortion.  

Answer 14

You can't just put your child into foster care because you don't want to take care of it and expect to get it back later on.

You either parent your child, or you don't and put it up for permanent adoption. A child's life is not a game. You can't walk in and out whenever you feel "ready". A child needs stability, a consistent caregiver to bond with who will always be the parent to that child, not bouncing from foster home to foster home, having some immature kids coming by every once in awhile when the mood strikes them and in a few years think you can just take over.

Contact adoption agencies in your state. It costs nothing to place a child for adoption.

Answer 15

I'd look into adoption if I were you. It might be hard to give up the baby though once your girlfriend has gone through the pregnancy and the birth.

Good Luck

Answer 16

do adoption. then you will know it will be in a loving home. foster care will bounce it from home to home until it finds a permanent home, if it does at all.

Answer 17

I'm not sure what it will cost, but there are always programs and financial assistance for people in your situation.  Please think really long and hard before you make this decision.  It will affect the rest of your lives.  You may think adoption is the best answer right now, but you may regret this later on in life, like many people end up doing. When reality sets in, so will the GUILT.  And by then, it will probably be too late to get your child back.  Please make sure this is really what you want to do :)

Answer 18

Why do you want to put the baby in foster care?  Are you planning on taking it back when you are mature enough to care for him, or when you can afford to?  Forget foster care.  Think adoption.  If you are too young to care for a child, then please give it up for adoption to someone who can.  You can't just give a baby away, and then take it back when it's more convenient for you.  

Answer 19

Foster care or put it up for adoption? In the US you can put a baby up for adoption and it cost nothing, typically the adopting family will pay even the hospital and medical cost. It is a hard decision to make though. I applaud you on realizing what could be best for the baby.