I been looking for a little guidance online for my situation but can't really find anything, so I guess I'll post it and see if any one can offer some insight.
First my and girlfriend have been together over 5 years. We've had problems, I'm sure just like any other relationship but this one was a little different. Due to a demanding work schedule for around the last 13 months, I may have lagged a bit on my boyfriend duties. But 13 and 14 hours of work a night really take it out of me. I know I wasn;t there for her like a should have been, but I thought she could hang in there. Our absence of spending time together turned into arguments and fights and after 11 months of dealing with it, she kinda gave up on me and left to live with her friend. After a week of being gone, she came back, only for us to have an argument again and she left once more. We talked regulary everyday she was gone, and finally after the 3rd or 4th week of being gone, she asked to come back home and work things out. We talked and she admitted to cheating. She told me she was seeing abother guy for about 2 months. She said she was sorry but she felt so alone with me working overnights and leaving her alone so much. She also said that I dont show any emotion toward her and she was always second on my list of priorities. I forgave her, knowing this was partly my fault, for taking her for granted, and her honesty and sincerity on comming back and working things out was an eye opener that she really loves me. After the third day of being home with me, I come home in the morning to find she had packed up all her stuff and was getting ready to leave again. I asked why and she wold not tell me, and she said she couldnt even look me in the face. Turns out she is prego and its not mine. After thinking long and hard about this whole situation, I am still willing to except her and help raise this baby as if it were my own. We've talked several times, and still she is not clear to me on what she wants. I've poured my heart out to her, and shes not sure what to do. She loves me and was willing to try again until she got prego, now everythings changed. The baby's father wants to be a part of the baby's life and her's and she believes thats the right thing to do. After pouring out my heart to her, I asked what she really wanted. I told her my door is open, but if she was sure on what she wanted to do, and our relationship was past fixing, I would walk away and let her be happy. She said she's not sure what she wants, she's confused and not sure what the right thing to do is? What should I do, Should I walk away, should I keep trying to get her back? Am I stupid for still accepting her after cheating and getting prego? any insight would help
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