My girlfriend likes another guy. What should I do?

Question

It all started when I met this girl at work and I thought right off the bat that she was attractive. We started talking and after a couple weeks we were dating. We were dating for around a month and I found out that she was going to Ohio to see her ex-boyfriend who is 23 (she is 17, I am 18 and we both live in San Diego).

This really disappointed me because she basically led me on when we were technically “together” and she didn’t tell me she still had feelings for this guy. To make matters worse, while she was over there he told her that he might be moving back to San Diego, which definitely got her hopes up.

When she got back things kind of went back to normal as in we were kind of dating again. Soon afterwards I went to see my father in NY and when I got back she told my friend that she doesn’t “feel that way anymore about me”.

I really still feel like she likes me and I can tell. I don’t know if it’s just me but I still think she has feelings for me. So basically she is waiting for this guy to come back from Ohio so they can be together. But the catch is it isn’t a for sure thing that he is coming back. So what should I do?

Answer 1

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Answer 2

Sed her a nice little note;

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Answer 3

u should take her money and tell her to kick rocks

Answer 4

She's making it clear that she would rather be with you, than be alone, but if she had her way, she would be with this guy.  Furthermore, if this guy came back to SD, you would be put to the curb.

No woman would stand for it if she was in the same position.  She would make it clear that she had to be number one.  There is no room for being second best.  Think about that.  If you were talking and thinking about another woman, and she knew it, she would be all over you in a bad way, like a nasty rash.  I'm not talking about s*x.  I'm talking about nagging, and arguing, and making life h**l.  You know it to be true.

You want some silver bullet that will make her want you again.  You are hurt because she clearly wants him first.  You are going to have to make the tough choice, and break it off with her, and make it clear that she is being an unconscionable *****, by treating you like you are just a temporary thing until she gets what she wants.

Answer 5

Well, what you shouldn't do is play second-fiddle to some idiot who doesn't even live in your state.

Dump her. Then promptly get a life.

Answer 6

Right now you seem un-decided about whether or not you two are actually in a relationship. That is not a good sign. It is also obvious that she still has feelings for her ex-boyfriend. Another bad sign.

She may still have feelings for you but she isn’t ready for a real relationship. If you two are going to be together her ex-boyfriend can no longer be in the picture. If she keeps talking to him and still has feelings for him it is time to find someone new.

Answer 7

I'd tell you what I'd do: bang her a few times and then leave her.