My girlfriend of ten years want me to convert to islam? or the end of relationship. does it make sense?

Question

I am an atheist. my girl friend of ten years was muslim . all of a sudden she wants me to convert in to islam and marry her under islamic traditions.or else we dont have any relationship.is this fair?is it make sense to muslim people?

Answer 1

No, if she respected you she would accept you for you.  I suggest you find someone who either has more similar beliefs as you do or can at least respect yours.

Answer 2

You must make her realize to do so would only be for the purpose of pleasing her and not coming from your heart. See if that is what she wants and think about if that is what you want as well. It is a little too late to try and change you now. Only you should be initiating that move.  

Answer 3

heeey listen. i m muslim. But i dont advice u that u change ur religion just as if she wants. if u search some true information about islam and then if  u accepted it`s rural why not. but just for her it is just shape without religion . u chete urself and her.

good luck  

Answer 4

iit does make sense in our religion!

u cannot marry a non muslim and specially if its the man!

cuz man is the head of the family! and he is supposed to take care of the woman! love her! respect her! and treat her well! am sure u already are all those or either no gurl would've stayed 10yrs with you!

i know its hard! but if u rlly love her! then u should consider it!

i can help u with anythin u want! jst let me no!

who knows! maybe u'd like islam! and maybe u wont!

goodluck man!

Answer 5

I am muslim ..

Islam is the true religion ,, please you should

I just wonder if i can talk to you more and more about Islam..

Please you should do that ,, not for her ,, but for GOD !!

please ,, and ya Ramadan is coming I hope you will fast with all muslims this year

ameeeeeeeeeeeeeeeen please you should

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Islam - 334k

www.IslamReligion.com

islamworld.net/become.html - 10k

www.muslimconverts.com/ - 13k

Any question I will answer 2 you ,, promise

Answer 6

Well she can't make you something you are not.  If she can not accept that then you can not have a relationship.

Linda

Answer 7

That is odd after 10 years.  Maybe it is just a formality so you can get married the way she wants to get married, however, if you convert just for that reason it would be a sham.  I would ask her why she now suddenly feels that way.  If you have been together 10 years it is strange she would ask that of you now.

Answer 8

my thought is if you is atheist you need to change some thing  

Answer 9

She didn't tell you that 10 yrs ago? I would not change my religious beliefs (even if it's just on paper) to be with anyone.

Answer 10

Ask Katie Holmes!  She converted to Scientology for Tom Cruise, TOM CRUISE!  and the girl is mis er a ble...LOOK AT HER!  I can not believe, after 10 years, your gf just now brings this c**p up, unbelievable.  Dude, you better run, seriously, Muslims are crazy for real...(and she never "was" Muslim, she is and always will be Muslim).  

Answer 11

Sounds like you have commitment issues.  If you have been her boyfriend for 10 years and have not considered marriage before now she is a very patient person.  Marriage does not have to be religious but if she is a practicing Islam, I am surprised she let you stick around so long.

Answer 12

u shudve known this before u got into this mess

and under the islam rules, a girl cant religiously marry an non muslim guy - however a muslim guy can marry out of their religion, since the girl will automatically be converted

ur a sikh guy, look at all that the Gurus have done to preserve and stand up for SiKhi

and im in no place to judge since i also dated and loved a muslim man

however, she clearly prioritizes her religion over you and ur culture/religion and has no respect for you

and if religion was SO IMPORTANT to her... why did she not discuss this earlier?? why did she even begin a relationship with u in the first place??

that is such a p**s off

and no she cant force u to do anything, buh the sad part is, u most likely will end up converting because 10 years is a long time to be with someone and she is using that to her advantage

and also, u say ur an atheist ... so i dont see how this would impact u except for the fact that u will now HAVE to adopt a religion as before u didnt have to since u were atheist

buh think of how ur parents and ur family will feel with ur conversion

they have all these hopes and dreams of marrying their son in traditional ways etc ... it wud be heart breaking

and ur gonna cause so much damage on UR side ... all for a girl who doesnt even care about ur needs ...??? as clearly evident????

if shes willing to break up with u NOW due to religion and issues regarding religion, imagine what she can do in the future

(i.e. divorce because the kids are not islamic enough??))

be very careful and think about all the stuff i said here

msg me if u wanna talk or have further concerns/questions

gluck

Answer 13

It just proves that all they want is to spread Islam.  Dispite the fact that you are supposed to be able to select of your own free will (or so they say).  See below.

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SOME BASICS:

Mohammed Lived in Mecca and claimed the Archangel Gabriel taught him the ways of Allah.  From Mohammed's dictations, his deciples wrote those teachings down and it became the Koran.  (Why did he have followers before the Koran?  Because he was really just a warlord trying to gain power.)

Mohammed later moved to Medina, there the Koran continued to be developed, but at this point began to contradict other parts of the Koran.  His solution was to tell everyone that Allah is allowed to change his mind, and that the later teachings take priority over the earlier ones if they contradict.  (This is also the period where it became more violent as Mohammed began to seize and wanted to hold onto his status as the warlord, person in charge).

The Koran is missing lots of details in the teachings and the events.  Mohammed's solution was the Hadith.  The Hadith provides the details missing from the Koran as dictated by Mohammed and are considered un-challengeable. The Hadith is considered absolute fact, unless it is contradicted by the Koran (of which the Koran rules), and the Koran cannot be challenged unless it is contradicted by other teachings in the Koran of which the later teachings take priority. (This is all very convenient for a warlord trying to seize power and people were just stupid enough to believe it as they are today).

The weight of Islam is this.  Mohammed just made everything up as a way to seize power, he the Koran and the Hadith are all lies where the "Teachings" are concerned. However, they were also used to record actual historical events and since the Koran at that time was still a living document (being modified) it was written with "teachings" that coincided with the actual events which could be verified. This greatly contributed to the reasons why the later Koran text contradicts the earlier ones, because at this point real events could be applied.

ISLAM IS A LIE:

People, who convert to Islam, are just fools. Especially adults for being so gullible to fall for this just because other people say it, and not having enough intelligence to figure it out. Those individuals are basically just rats in a maze looking for their next piece of cheese.

If anyone thinks Islam is peaceful, just draw a cartoon of Mohammed and see how many PEACEFUL Muslims threaten to kill you.  They will say it's because it is deeply offensive to them, but that is not an excuse.  It is deeply offensive to American's to think that one's religious views should trump a persons RIGHT to Free Speech, but Americas don't usually threaten to kill people for it.

The Clerics claim the crowds of people shouting "Death to America" is not following the teachings of Islam, yet when those crowds are out, I have yet to ever see a single cleric out there telling them that, standing against them.

THE ENEMY WITHIN:

It is VERY important to remember that EVERYTHING in a Muslims entire life is second to Islam. They will utilize whatever means they have in the interest of Islam because they feel Allah's laws are above everything else, and that they are justified in whatever means they use to help promote it.  If they work in a field containing sensitive data that can be used to promote Islam, they will grab it. If they work at the Department of Motor Vehicles and are looking for someone that is against Islam and they have the means to track them down, they will use it. If they work at a Internet Service Provider and are trying to track down a person who provides anti-islamic stuff on the Internet, they will get the information and use it against people (All of this has happened a lot in recent history). Restricting hiring practices so that it cannot be based on religion was a stupid idea.

POLITICS:

It is the goal of Islam to spread its teachings and impose Islamic law wherever it can and by whatever means it can. It is the specifically stated in the Koran.

Many go into power, claiming to be Christian and then surprisingly "convert" to Islam.  Once in power they do whatever they can to bring about change that will promote Islam. It may be something extreme but is usually something more subtle such as voting for laws that allow Islam to spread in some way such as allowing public rallies for it where it might be more restricted otherwise. Or in some cases voting to allow a tower with speakers to announce "call to prayer" publicly.  This has happened in several communities around the world that were mostly Christian.  One such example is Mayor Jack Ellis of Macon Georgia in the United States.

On top of all this, Barack Hussain Obama, is the son of a man who is not only, not an American, but a Muslim. Barack's mother later re-married yet another Muslim, Barack Obama attended a Muslim school up to the age of ten I believe, and yet he claims he is not Muslim. Even if he did convert, are you sure he was not brainwashed enough by the years of teachings. Or perhaps he is waiting until he gets into the office of the President of the United States of America to "convert to Islam" and work on spreading Islamic Law.

Even if he really is not Muslim and has no intentions, it is just too much of a risk. It is a national security issue and anybody who votes for him is a FOOL.

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Answer 14

I am surprised she hasn't demanded you convert to Islam sooner than now. I would walk away. As an atheist, you will not agree with Islam. One thing about this religion, you can't quit like being a Methodist or Catholic. Leave today. Trust me on this one.

Answer 15

Well i'm a muslim and I say this just to help you out... DO NOT CONVERT, there is no reason for you too convert if you dont actually believe it, though if you reaallly want to be with her reaserch Islam more and see it as it really is, not like what people tell you its like.

You have to forget what you have heard, and go to the Qur'an and see what it actually says only then can you say Yes I want to be a muslim, or No im sorry, this is just not for me.

Also she should know better than to ask you this now, that just shows that SHE is not a very good muslim, though I am  not God and I cannot judge people so...

anyway, hope you can really look into Islam first, but dont convert just because she asked you too or just because you like her, remeber you have to actually believe what the Qur'an says and it will stay with you for the rest of your life. If you do it because you really want to be a muslim and agree with what the Qur'an says then your life will be much better, if you convert and you dont believe it then you will struggle and things will just get worse.

Peace

Answer 16

no dont i think someone is brain washing her

Answer 17

Of course it makes sense. Islam is (like many other religions) something you have to follow diligently. Fair? What's fair? She told you how it is. For an atheist, it's a deal breaker. For an Muslim, an atheist partner is a deal breaker. Deal broken.  

Answer 18

Very Fair!  Get out NOW!  

Answer 19

She's probably being nagged by her family.

Answer 20

That's interesting. You, a self-proclaimed atheist and a 10 year girlfriend who's Islamic. Your fortitude in those times of Ramadan is commendable IF she truly is following the faith. Don't know how familiar you are to the religion but the way you explain yourself of your girl's desire to convert you, she seems to have the upper hand on you. Meaning that if there is ever a time after you have been converted where you stray into an affair either fact or rumor, you're gonna be spayed and neutered as is the belief.