My girlfriends dad forbids us to see each other? PLEASE HELP?

Question

ok we finally told her parents that she is pregnant. Took us about a week to do so cause she was very afraid. Her dad is really angry at me and forbids me to see his daughter. I told him straight out that i am not leaving her and that i am staying with her not just for the baby because I LOVE HER. He stills doesn't want me near her, my g/f ashley tried to defend me but i just told her, i would just leave cause i don't want to cause problems with her and her parents. I will be there for her and the baby, No matter what. I will not abandon her even if her parents don't want me involved in the decision making.

I think her dad is being alittle harsh, i understand he is upset that his daughter pregnant. But she is 16 years old going to be a sophomore in high school. I am the same.

I am not leaving her, I love her with all my heart. She is my Angel baby(yea i know corny) but that is my pet name for her hehehe.

What do i do, please help. I am not going to stop seeing my girlfriend just because her dad says so. I am not going to be one of those dead beat boyfriends who runs after getting their g/f's pregnant. I have a job and sorta responsible.

Her dad has no right from not letting me see her. What do i do, please help. I can't go a day without seeing her or i will die. Me and my g/f talked on the phone last night and she said she will talk to her dad. I love her with all my heart and i just want to be a part of her life. She means everything to me. I did not pressure her into s*x, she wanted to have s*x with me. She just had the bad luck of getting pregnant.

We are only sophomores(10th grade) in high school, well going to be. I agree with her dad, i ruined her life. I love her but we should have waited, now we are going to be parents and we are not ready. ABORTION IS NOT AN OPTION, we are not going to kill an innocent baby. I don't know what to do, my parents know to after her mom and dad called mine up.

I am staying by her and the baby. please help, i am afraid her dad won't listen to her. I LOVE HER

Answer 1

just don't give up, if you really love them her and the baby coming, then no one is going to stop u from seeing them. Nothing should come in between, just do watever u can. Try getting on the dads good side, oh and just also probably give him sometime, danng at 15, it must suck. but it happend and that's good that it was with u cuz u seem to be there for her. good luck!!

Answer 2

Give him time.  He just found out his baby is having a baby.  Respect him and his wishes for now, trust me it will benefit you in the future.  When things have cooled down, he will listen better to what you guys have to say.  Tell your parents how you feel and maybe after some time you can all sit down together and figure things out.  A baby is going to change a lot of things, and I hope you stick with what you are feeling.  

When we were teens, many moons ago, my cousin got pregnant at 15.  Her mother flipped out and told her to get an abortion or get out.  His family took her in and she had the baby.  That girl is now your age going to be a sophomore and grandma's favorite.  There is hope, just be strong, and more responsible than you have been.  Think about how you would feel if 15 years from now your baby boy/girl came to you and told you they were going to have a baby.

Answer 3

make a better relationship with her father

Answer 4

Give him time to cool off.  And good luck.  Parenthood is NOT easy.

Answer 5

first of all be proud. second stand by your decision. when it is all said and done you will be the one with the upper hand. love your girl and love that baby and that love will give you the strength to get through.

Answer 6

Maybe you could try having your parents go over with you and sit down and talk to her parents.  It may just be a matter of giving them some time.  What her dad doesn't realize is that his daughter could be much worse off.  There are a lot of guys that would have said " that's all her problem, not mine"  but you are willing to step up.  

If the battle continues, make sure that your girlfriend puts your name on the baby's birth certificate no matter what.

Answer 7

give it sometime you guys got a couple months to figure it all out. i was in ur situation. i kept mine a secret (from my parents) and had a miscarriage though. you have to give her dad some time he is obviously angry. you did not ruin her life you just made it a little harder. you and her will eventually be able to see each other but for now just give her dad some time. i could suggest if she and your self want to make life easier to put the baby up for adoption. but i just cant see how people live with their flesh and blood just floating around. you always will wonder what he or she looks like. its weird. but i just don't like the options for a 16 year old girl pregnant we have the right to chose. not our parents. as i will say again. give her dad some time....

Answer 8

Wow, I wish every single guy in the universe was like you, I mean, besides having s*x and getting your girl pregnant as sophomores. you must truly care for her. I honor the fact that you aren't going to murder your baby and that you respect what her parents say even though they are upset. You have a job, save up for an apartment, find a way to get some good credit so you can get an apartment or a house someday. She is lucky to have such a wonderful boyfriend. Yes her parents are angry now, but for your sake, I hope that he'll calm down, he's still getting used to the fact, I wish you both the best of luck. just be patient, you've got 9 months or at least 8 until the baby is born to work it all out.

Answer 9

Wow thats the longest question ive ever seen...

hahaha as much as us guys hide it i guess we all have corny names for our lovers.... you know what, **** the dad... you love her you stick by her, he can scream till the cows come home but he cant change something as special as what you have got going there with ashley.. Shes a keeper, soon enough the dad will accept it, but now its important you get that message across

Answer 10

Oftentimes people with such a young age may be a little too young to handle a family. Loving someone deeply no matter how much u expressed it won't help the damage because of the responsibility you both had in the relationship in the 1st place.(causing the pregnancy at the mere age of 16) Her father wants the best for her daughter and i am sure he wants to protect her from all the things happened. Take time to think if u can still love her if the father continues to forbid u from seeing her..

Will you still love her if her father has resorted in abortion? will you still marry her when come time you both has matured even though the baby was aborted ? It might be easier to say the words of love..But a relationship takes up a lot of effort and faith and unconditional love...it is even harder to build a family let alone a good and stable relationship.

I hope you can understand this and take a step out of the loop and see this as an outsider.What do you think is best to handle it. Understand how the father feels and also assure the one u love tht your heart is unchangeable no matter what happens..

Answer 11

Watch Juno. Give the baby up for adoption. They have ads in the Pennysaver. Seriously.

Answer 12

you're on the right track