My girls a virgin and every time I try to finger her she says it hurts...what can I do to get her to relax?

Question

She's 24 and doesn't m********e. I love her with everything and am waiting till marrage...

Answer 1

Hello-

I would recommend purchasing lubricant. A waterbased lubricant is gentle and will help easing your finger in without too much pain. You can purchase it anywhere or go to:

http://bedroomdivaparties.stockroom.com and scroll all the way down to lubricants.

Answer 2

dont try too many fingers

try rubbing her or oral with her.

Answer 3

It has NOTHING to do with relaxing.

The hymen hurts. Try pushing a pin through your lower lip. It's kind of like that. It will take a while for it to not hurt, if it ever does. So be patient with her. In the meantime, try stimulating the clitoris instead of penetrating her.

Answer 4

Lube or rub just outside the v****a until she is wet.

I had this problem too.

Answer 5

maybe she should try masturbation

Answer 6

First, are you aware that penetration isn't the most pleasurable part of being touched for a woman?  I'm not saying it's not great but it's the clitoris that will give most woman the majority of orgasms in her life.  If you don't know where the clitoris is, for the sake of your girlfriend, learn. http://www.teenwire.com/interactive/diag...

Also, don't go straight for her crotch.  It's important to remember that girls are very different from guys, as much in the way they like s*x as in their physical parts.  Most guys are like a car that you can start up, floor it and hit the freeway right away. But girls are more like a car that you start and let it idle for a few minutes and even then when you start to drive you take it slow at first before flooring it.  You have to start with kissing, stroking, nuzzling, etc  Her neck, her ears, her b*****s, the inside of her thights, etc. After at least 5 min of this you can begin to work you way lower.  

Now all girls are different so you have to start with the basics and find out what she prefers.  First, avoid touching her dry, you can start with a sliding a finger or two inside her first so that you picks up some of her natural lubrication or use some KY, then you can start gently rubbing around her C**t.  Don't touch it right away as it can be very tender to start with, you can go back and forth with your fingers, inside then outside, etc. Keep it moist!!

Answer 7

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Answer 8

her saying that she it hurts may also mean she isn't completely comfortable with what you're doing. talk to her about it; as far as i know it's supposed to hurt the first time.