My god I feel trapped in this job, pays good but environment is getting annoying and uncomfortable!?

Question

I just had a verbal fight with a coworker, it happened last week and it got worst today, the same with others because I'm the kind that keeps feelings and thoughs inside, I also don't let anyone disrespect me so I guess that's all the pandemonium...

:-(

Answer 1

The issue is your boss keeps you stressed to keep you there, most folks on a reasonable or high wage, are manipulated to be forced labor. Most folks on high wages job hop alot as Gods gift to the world so they effect your work environment with stress.

You can not choose your co workers that easily but you can choose how you react. For every action there is an equal and opposite psychological reaction. Can you distract the coworkers attention elsewhere? Reward good behavior and ignoring bad behavior can only last so long.

Sometimes the worst person in the office is the office psychopath bringing in the work. Highly creative but also very demanding controlling manipulative and ironically sane. But don't let the fact they use blame transference, accusation nor stupidity effect your performance. True profitability to a firm is where a collective team approach to coordinating shared profits maximises effectiveness. With the exception of Ivory Tower defenders who dont do their work but are great at somehow keeping their job when everyone else loses theirs?

Focus not on the pathetically useless book doing the rounds still and how is a complete and utter mystery and I actually await the aweful moment when the author says oh shiite we stuffed up big time I got it wrong, sorry cant sue, bankrupt? Basically the book who hid my cheese justifys embezzlement, hostile takeovers and laziness ivory tower sitters workplace stress and his the biggest load of horse excrement I refuse to read. Fact is, it just doesnt work does it.

Remember, as you sowe so shall you reap, just be aware of what you become. Dont change horses midstream, serve your employer without scruple and without diffidence and be consistantly hard working, the firm can also benefit from the following suggestions?

You say the work environment is stressful? There has been research into how the work environment can increase efficiency by up to 30% depending on folks enjoying their work. Imagine if there was a recession and 30% extra efficiency or profit had to be found?

Try googling Rider Hunt and asking about BQA Building Quality Appraisal. They are the largest Quantity Surveying firm in Australia and also the second or third largest Cost Engineering firm in the world. Their staff all have great integrity and fortitude in endeavouring to provide the highest quality value for the built environment. I dont hesitate for one minute in refering a past employer because I left there on good terms. They simply focus on what it does how it does it and have a really focused easy going staff with great ideas and the highest accademic results from all their employees.

Answer 2

If you work at MACI, I recommend you quit or find yourself a good lawyer. ;-)

Answer 3

It's unfortunatley called working with adults or in some cases oversized children.  I also have the same instincts you do of keeping my thoughts inside and wouldn't let people disrespect me.  

This may just be a passing phase and perhaps the person causing the problem will cause problems with others and eventually be let go, in the mean time you shouldn't have to fight at work.  Sometimes co-workers with a mean streak will continue to disrespect you because they like to see the angry response they get from you to further justify their behavior.  First stop the verbal jousting with this individual, either bite your tougne and say nothing or if you want to push their buttons say "thank you"; but beware this is not the answer they want because they want to see you explode and get the best of you and they may try to escalate their behavior.  Document what is being said, who was there when it was said and keep a record of their activity towards you.  Either they will go over the top and attack you or stop because they aren't getting the response they want from you.  While you don't like being disrespected, no one does, it doesn't really hurt and makes the other person look like a total jerk; gives you more to document.  Write down what they are saying, if it is unprovoked all the better and deal directly with this problem with your supervisor.

Let him/her know what you've what you've been holding in and also what caused the disrespect that has seemingly gotten out of hand.

Let this person know you are no longer going to argue with them, (also tell your boss you no longer wish to argue with them) and if it continues you will have to report it, there comes a time to end arguments and if they are too imature to figure that out it will eventually blow up in their face.

If this person becomes violent towards you and grabs or physcially assaults you, make sure you have either witnesses or the bruises to show the cops, call 911 and press charges for assault and battery.  It is your right to press charges when attacked, and also to get a restraining order/w no contact and bring that into your boss should it escalate to that extent.

I feel for you, I have been in that position before, and let the other person continue until it was apparent who the real jerk is.  

While it may be against your nature to fight being dissed, remember it is stronger and wiser to let the words bounce off you and you will remain blame free, than to continue fighting with this evil.  Remember if you get punched, slapped or pushed DO NOT IN ANYWAY RESPOND IN LIKE, you are only allowed to use enough force to escape and if you have a place to walk to do so and call 911.  Somethings like assault are better handled by law enforcement than a management style that would have you sit down talk through your differences shake hands and of course the management thinks it solved the problem.

Answer 4

money ain't everything.

Answer 5

whenever you think your job is bad, try to think about reading those two longggggg winded answers on here and you should immediately feel better.

Answer 6

Do something else. It's a big world. It might seem hard but just take it one step at a time. Find what you want and go for it.

Praying helps

Fighting usually just makes things worse. Even if someone is disrespecting you, the negative energy of the fight will not leave you just becasue you put the other person in his/her place. Only letting go of the tension (like Jesus would) and moving on will bring any peace.

But that is only my two cents. Take it for what it's worth

Answer 7

I travel the world to other countries.  That is not the only job.

One thing to remember thought.  Where ever you go, you take you with you.

There will always be problems because the world is not perfect.

Even in different parts of the world.  I know.

Answer 8

After reading your profile, I would offer that the difficulties you are now encountering may come from the fact that you have such high standards for yourself. Due to this you are not with in the "norm", in the office, and thus an outsider. If you remain "aloof",  I see no solution other than to find a position with a staff that has the same values as you do. Hope this helps.

Answer 9

Just quit your job if you can afford. Ha ha. Exchange it for worse conditions; perhaps you are a perfectionist.

Besides, many cannot appreciate that you are ALWAYS cross-posting your questions with an average of 4, but we remain polite, don't we? You got a mail about this practice. I searched and found this particular question 5 times: it is in Etiquette; Mental Health; Sociology; Philosophy; General - Society & Culture!

And moreover, this one here isn't even a question, like "Michala S" points out, it is more "churning (out)"!

We still like you Tamara, don't panic, but a change of attitude can work miracles, also here in Yahoo! Answers.