My grandaughter is graduating from Kindergarten. Her other grandparents are going all out and getting her?

Question

jewelry and the other is getting her tickets to the High School Musical. I don't like competing but I can't think of anything special to do or give her. Any ideas?

Answer 1

That is ridiculous!   They shouldn't be treating this occasion like it's college graduation, or even high school.   And you DEFINITELY should not have to compete with them.

Just get her some little thing you think she would enjoy.  My six-year-old loves art supplies, and would adore a shopping bag filled with crayons, paints, paper, and coloring books.  As long as it comes from your heart, she will be happy with it!

Answer 2

Oh gee take her to lunch. It could be McDonalds as has been suggested or the two of you could dress up and go to a fancy restaurant!!

Going to the movies also might be fun. There are some great kids shows on now. You could stop for an ice cream sundae afterward.

Answer 3

omg, that is just sick.  If your son/daughter told you this for you to compete with what the other grandparents are getting her, there is something seriously wrong with this.  Jeeze, try a trip to McDonald's playland....she will have a blast.

Answer 4

I wouldn't get her anything.  The whole idea of a kindergarten graduation is ridiculous anyway.  Show up at graduation, give your granddaughter a hug and a kiss and tell her how proud you are of her.  Kids are a h**l of a lot better at spotting c**p like buying their affection than we give them credit for.

Answer 5

if those are the things she's getting for a kindergarten graduation, i don't know what she'll get to make her happy when high school graduation rolls around... don't compete and give her something from your heart..

Answer 6

Please don't compete. You are all grown people! If they want to do that then fine. But your grandaughter will love you regardless. Don't worry about who's looking to see what you got her. Give her something that you think is approriate.

Answer 7

Since you are the parent, you set the rules.  It is up to you to enforce those rules.

Decide what is appropriate and inform the grandparents.  They will be annoyed at first, but the alternative is a grandchild who only loves them for the stuff she gets.  And that's not love.

Answer 8

ok first off its kindergarten......second maybe u should find out something she likes or would enjoy doing and get her that or celabrate it with her by throwing her a little party with a cake and gamesand friends

Answer 9

Don't compete.  Its ridiculous to make a deal over Kindergarten graduation, but heck, cheap jewelry from one grandparent and a visit to the arts with another can't be bad.  Just talk with your son or daughter about when this summer would be good for a day with you.  Best would be to suggest that her parents take a weekend away, and she'll spend an entire weekend with you.  Breakfast and a day at the zoo with you is what she needs.  You don't want to compete, you just want your own relationship with your granddaughter.

Answer 10

get her a toy thats in STYLE  i repeat STYLE you cant compeet over style and also give her a good experience or throw her a party ?

good luck !

Answer 11

the best thing you can give your granddaughter is some one on one time with you.  My husbands parents have always bought elaborate gifts for the kids on every occassion my parents refuse to put it in there head that everything should be about material things and instead for the special occassions they will take that child for the day and they do whatever he or she wants.  My kids are now 16, 10 and 8 and they know that my parents are there for them and they have a very close relationship with them however when it comes to my husbands parents they only want to see them when it is time for a holiday, birthday etc to get their gift.  The childs other grandparents are teaching her at a young age that money and buying is what is important to them you can teach her that time together is more precious than anything else.

Answer 12

Give her card and write how much you are proud of her growing up and for learning so much! And invite her for a special lunch/dinner just the two of you. You can take her on a picnic, to a tea room so you both dress up -- think of something she would like to do with you and keep it simple. Like all of the others have said it isn't good to compete with gifts. Give her the best gift     time with you!

Answer 13

I'm sure your granddaughter would love nothing more than a day out to lunch with you at McDonald's or something.

Answer 14

I think that graduating from kindergarten is a great thing... i love that they have a ceremony to celebrate the child's first year at school... That said... I do think gifts are fine... especially if it is unexpected... I think that asking her where her favorite place to eat is... and going there, maybe icecream afterwards... and I love to take my niece's individually to get a full outfit...  not too expensive :) It is her special day... do whatever you are comfortable with.. you know her :) Don't worry about trying to keep up with the others... HS Musical for a 5 year old seems a little young, but to each his own :) Just remember what that day represents... Her accomplishments... her first year of school and celebrate that with her! Enjoy yourself!! And remember your camera!

Answer 15

My daughters grandparents do that kind of stuff too. All I do is explain how proud I am of her and every time she sucessfully passes a grade a school I let her pick out one toy under 50$, as a reward.

Answer 16

When did graduating from kindergarten become such a big deal?  Geez, just give her a hug, tell her your proud of her and let the others spend the money if they want to.

Answer 17

Since when has graduating from Kindergarten required a gift? You don't have to buy anything to show her you are proud of her.

Answer 18

I wouldn't say your competing but it's always good to show appreciation to the child. I think High School Musical tickets are a bit much for the other grandparents to do but maybe taking her out for the day to a zoo or out to lunch would be fun. I think jewelry and all that is a bit much because then the child will always expect big gifts like this. And School is something every child has to go through anyway.... but a day out with grandma is always fun!

Answer 19

Some grandparents are so obnoxious with presents.  Just be you and your grandaughter will see through all that material c**p as she gets older.  My dad's mom used to buy me 15 or more presents for X-mas.  My mom's mom would get us one gift, but it was always something nice and from the heart.  Even at a young age I knew that more wasn't necessarily better.  Take her to Friendlys and have an ice cream. I would share your fears with your son/daughter so that they can make sure your grandaughter knows that just because she gets more things from one set of grandparents that it doesn't make them better.