My grandfather died today?

Question

hey guys. last night out of the blue my grandfather was hospitalized with phenumonia(spelling) and this morning when i woke up my parents told me he had passed away. now i really dont know how to deal with this its really hard since first of all i was named after him, so i have the same name(expect mine is basically the english version) and just because it happend so soon. i mean he has had lou gehrigs disease for over 20 years but still i will forever miss him. im 15 and lost my grandmother(his wife) last year a few weeks after my birthday. but yes how can i truly come to terms with this and how can i deal with this, i havent even cried today(even thou i am upset) i did cry a lot last night when i heard he wasnt doing well but anyway what should i do.

btw i did see him a few days ago but i didnt really think of it as the last time i would see him it was just a regular hey hows it going thing. he was 76.

Answer 1

Hi there.  I'm sorry to hear about your gramps passing away.

Someone I love died recently and what helped me was making a little space for them in my room.  I cleared one of my bookshelves shelves and put their picture there with some of the things that person had given me.  I got one of those flameless candles and put it in front of their pictures - it shuts off after 3 hours and I don't have to worry about going out.  I put the fameless candle on and look at their picture and think about the person and let myself cry if I feel like it.

We all grieve in different ways - tears will come, eventually.

Be alone when you need to be alone, but remember to be with your family, too.  They understand how you are feeling.

Hope the links below will help you.

Take care of yourself.  My family and I are sending you and your family some good energy.

Answer 2

I am so sorry you lost your grandfather.  I know how it feels.  My grandfather passed away in 94...almost 14 years...in october.  He was my favorite grandfather (we called him Papal).  I am still not over his death.  He died quickly...after a lot of suffering.  He had lung cancer but died in his sleep.

I doubt you will ever get over his death...it's something that you will remember for the rest of your life, but you will move on and learn to cope.  Life will get easier eventually.

Talk to your parents about this and they maybe able to comfort you and themselves.

Answer 3

Sorry about your loss. I'm sure your gandfather is in a better place right now and looking at you and smiling. It is very hard to get over loss that just happened by shock. My dad's friend passed away last week out of the blue too and i was really upset because he rocked.

But now i'm over it and i know that he feels no pain.

You have to know that your grandfather has no pain now and that he's in a better place. I know how you feel. And if you feel bad imagine how your parents feel. :(        I hope you feel better! :D

♥Kaltiyn(with the band)♥

Answer 4

i am so sorry to hear about your loss.Losing someone you were close to is very hard.the reason for you not crying could be the shock of it,as it happened so fast.people grieve differently,just give yourself some time to adjust to this,as i know this isn't  easy for you right now.yes,i would keep things which remind you of him in a special place,maybe you can begin a scrapbook and put things in it like photos and stuff,so for future reference you can show them to children you might someday have.

Answer 5

Im sorry about your loss, Im sure that your grandfather didnt mean to leave you without saying goodbye, it was just his time to go.

Right now you may be in shock so the best thing to do is to keep warm and only eat when you feel the need to eat, dont let people force you to eat.  Talk about his death and passing with the people around you and with close friends as much as you can.

Try to carry on with your day the best that you can.  It is better to take things one hour at a time for about 3 days, and then take life one day at a time until the numbness goes away.

After around 3-5 days resume your normal daily routine, things will not feel the same for a while yet but just do the very best that you can.

Answer 6

Its hard it really is, not crying does not mean anything. i mean people deal with circumstances in different ways and this is ur way of coping or...it hasnt 'hit u yet' which by the sounds of it, it has. Remember the good times, as your grandad would have wanted. If it becomes hard and you find it difficultthen talk to someone, a family member a close friend or a counsellor.