I dont know why I'm sharing this online, but I want to get some opinions about what's going on with me.
I was born in another country, but moved to the States when I was 7 years old. I dont remember much or know how close I was with my grandfather (father's dad). I just came back to my country with my father for the first time in 2006 after being in the States for over 13 years.
When I was there, I would lay near my grandfather's bed everyday. He rarely gets up. He always lay down because at that time, he was 88 years old, and his vision was weak. I did not speak much to time because I was not familiar with my language that much but I did talk to him.
I left a month later and my father and I have been pushing to go back the next time because we knew my grandfather's time was near. However, we didnt think it would be that soon because when we were there in 2006, he was still able to walk around the house and whatnot.
However, do to work, school etc., we could not make it.
Now, 2 days ago, I just found out my grandfather passed away. He was 90 years old. He was sick since january and hasnt stopped being sick. It got worse about a month ago and GOD decided to take him away.
The only person that lives in the house is my grandfather and my aunt (father's sister). And now she is all alone.
The weird thing is my grandmother (father's mother) passed away on the SAME DAY 10 + years before he did. What do you guys think about this day? Do you think GOD intended for it to be this way so he can finally be with his wife? So they can live eternally in bliss and harmony?
When I found out 2 days ago he passed away, I was angry, sad, and stressed. But I was not crying. I think about him but I'm not grieving like most people do when they loose someone. My father is more sadden and more stressed out, but I dont see him crying neither.
Do you think it may have to do with the fact that I was never really closed to him? Am I just unemotionally and selfish?
All my life, I've only attended one funeral, and I am not sure if that person was a blood relative. I dont remember being that sad neither.
Now, we or my father STILL cannot go back to my country for my father's funeral due to finances.
Can someone share some enlightenment and help me help myself?
Sorry for the long story.
Thanks for those who respond!
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