My grandpa is dying and I don't feel like crying at all? Why? I'm 17.?

Question

ok, say I'm close friends with someone and they move. I cry when I figure out they're leaving but once they're gone, I don't even notice it. I just continue on with the other friends I have. We keep in contact, yaddy, and occasionally I'll recall a memory and I'll "miss them", but other than that, even the day after they're gone, it's like they were never here and I don't miss them a bit (this has happened 4 times). When we get back together on visits, we just pick up where we left off, no awkwardness or anything. My parents go out of town all the time, and sometimes I leave for a week or 2 (for camp or something), and not once, have I ever missed my parents or gotten homesick. Same as before, don't miss em when they're gone, just pick up where you left off when you get back together (no matter how long its been). My granpa is now on his death bed. He's not going to make it past next week. This is going to be the first time anyone close to me has died. And so far, I don't feel like crying at all. My parents (its my mom's dad) aunts, Granny, all cry, and here I am emotionless. I love people, I'm not some emotionless robot. I experience love, hate, etc. But why is my Papa dying and I don't feel like crying. I'm afraid at the funeral everyone will be boohooing and look at me. "she's not crying, she must not have loved him as much". i'm afraid he's gonna go and it'll be just like with my friends, i won't cry or miss him, but occasionally a memory will pop up. i'll just go on like he was never even here. i talked to my mom, and she said all people grieve differently, but why am I like this? what's wrong with me?

Answer 1

nothings wrong with you. your not the only one who is experiencing this. don't think you are heartless or anything either lol!XD right now my grandfather is dieing and i dont feel a thing about it...although my mother is crying like MAD. maybe the reason you are not crying or feeling anything about this is because your not close to your grandfather...like me coz i have never met mine and hav never talk to him before(lives in another country) heck...i dont even have the papers to go visit him with my family...don't worry too much about it... sooner or later you will figure it out by yourself coz sumthing like tis is very hard to explain...could you come and answer my question..?i need help on how to come my mother down....

i hope my answer help u...even if its just a little bit~:D

Answer 2

i don't think anything is wrong with you coz there must be a reason. did you grow up with him or maybe as other people said you deal with greif differently - it sounds like you are sad but maybe its so deep that you can't express it or don't know how to. Don't feel guilty. All the best.    

Answer 3

Well honestly it probably hasn't hit yet considering he hasn't died yet. Everyone grieves differently like you said. I cried more when my grandma was sick than after she died. After she died it was more of a random thing. I would hear a song or something that reminded me of her and I would start crying. Honestly, you talking about him and talking about how it is sad does show that you care so don't feel guilty.. Good luck and I wish you and your grandpa the best!

Answer 4

Same here.  Death is a part of life. Just the end of the story.  Your grandpa has already been ready for this part of the story whether you realize it or not, and for a long time. I'm still numb.  BC

Answer 5

Well everyone reacts to death differently. I remember when my grandpa died I didn't feel very sad. It's a normal thing.

Answer 6

Nah its pretty normal.  I got this with my grandma its kinda like your in shock and can't believe that its happening.  Don't worry no one is gonna say that to you..it will hit you eventually don't beat yourself up over it.  its fine