My grandson was stillborn at 7 months 10 days,how do i get over the grieving feeling i have ever day?

Question

I wake up and the first thing i do is think about him and how much i wish i could feel him in my arms.

Answer 1

I am so sorry. I can't imagine how awful that is.  Just try to stay busy and be there for the mommy and daddy.  

Answer 2

My condolences go out to the family and my answer to you is "Time"

This is something you cant just push off your mind. Stay busy and talking about it to other people will help you go through this. I feel that things happen for a reason I dont know if you believe in god but in My believe I feel like god took him to be yalls ANGEL. It wasn't time for him to be here it was time for him to be in heaven.  

Answer 3

I don't think you will "get over it," but the feeling will probably fade with time.

I'm sure there are message boards and such for support if you need it.

There is also the option of counseling to help you deal with your grief.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Answer 4

buy a doll

or eat some ice cream

just try not to think about it

wont get easier, you will always remember

just try and learn to deal with it

the baby is in heaven!

rejoice that he didnt have to suffer on earth

Answer 5

By comforting his mother. Sorry to have forgotten my manners. I am so very sorry for the loss your family has suffered.

Answer 6

I agree, comfort the mother, talk about it, let the greiving process happen, don't try and push it away and fight it. If you feel sad, feel it.

The pain will always be there, but over time you'll be able to handle these emotions better.

Condolances for your loss, it is awefull to loose anyone you love.

Answer 7

First off let me just say how sorry I am to hear that.

Getting over something that unfortuanate takes a long time. That's all that can really help is time. And maybe try to keep yourself busy is to take your mind off it.

Once again, so sorry to hear that. Best wishes to you and your family.

Answer 8

So sorry to hear about your loss. Maybe writing a letter, poem, or song to your grandson would help you grieve. I definitely wouldn't ignore your feelings. If you have to cry then by all means do so. Everyone grieves differently and you wont just get over it. I pray that you and your family will get through this.  

Answer 9

to believe he is in a better place and maybe god just didnt want him to come here yet because he wasnt ready, and how god ran our of angels so he needed one more......  

Answer 10

Oh, I am so sorry for your loss.  I can't even imagine how difficult this must be for you and your family.

Just try to be there for the baby's parents.  You can't rush the grieving process, but time will help you to better cope with the loss.

Again, my sympathies go out to you and your family.

Answer 11

The same way people deal with older people when they die.  They get over it.

Answer 12

I am very sorry for your loss and wish there was something I could tell you that would make it easier on you.

Just remember that Mom and Dad are going through a really bad time right now, be there for them.

Make yourself busy,volunteer,  talk to other people who have gone through the same thing, you'll find it that it helps to talk about it. Find a counseling group, church, therapy...however you feel comfortable. Keep in mind that wherever he is, he is watching over you.  

I truly wish you and your family the best and I keep you all in my prayers.

Answer 13

I'm not sure that "getting over it" is the best thing to do.  Just remember him, love him, and know that you will meet him an Heaven some day.  We all have angels, and now you have an extra special one.  I am so sorry for your loss.

I lost a baby a couple years go...I'm still not "over it", but I have come to peace with it.  My child is with our Lord...as I will be some day.

God bless.

Answer 14

I am so sorry for your loss.  It will take time before your grieving begins to subside.  Try to lean towards your child and his/her family for support so that you all can heal together.

Answer 15

I'm so sorry for your loss.  You can be there with the mother (is she your daughter?).  Otherwise talk to your son and see if they want company.  It is very difficult.  There are bereavement groups (check Yahoo groups to do it by email, or look in your local yellow pages).

Force yourself to go out at least once a day.  Just sit on the porch, walk once around the block, wander around a store ... keeping busy helps.  Having a plan of action also helps me in difficult situations.  For example, if you're good at cooking, you could make a few meals for the grieving parents.  

It's a difficult time.  Take care.

Answer 16

i am so sorry for your loss. that is the most terrible thing that could ever happen to somebody . i dont even want to think about  his mother cause i would cry . God will help you guys trough each day and try to confort her mom as much as you can  cause she will be feeling either the same or worse , and the dad too  . so so sorry and good luck . "just take it each day at the time and dont blame yourself for anything" keep that in mind and remind her mother of that also .  

Answer 17

Counseling will definitly help you process what has happened to you which will help you better able to manage your grief.