My guy is a total commitment a phobe but he's been talking about weddings and when we get married?

Question

I know his cousin just got married. You think I should read something into this or no. He's telling me what colors he wants and where he wants it to be

Answer 1

Wedding fever is for real.  You could always be direct and ask him if he caught wedding fever or if he is shopping for diamonds!

Answer 2

all guys are different but lets  just say that i have been engaged for 2 years and now we are starting to plan he is having nothing but problems with everything i pick..uhhh wtf

Answer 3

Some guys are just like us girls, we like to fantasize about what our weddings would be like.  He is probably caught up in the excitement and romance of it all...

But hey, he can be just testing the waters to see what you would say.  Have fun with it, and just take it with a grain of salt.  If and when he is ready, he will ask you, and it will be a beautiful moment that you will always remember.

Answer 4

This is what I would say to him:

"I know that getting married is a big deal, and I know that you may need to take your time before thinking about getting married. But lately you have been talking about weddings more, so it leads me to believe you may be considering that some time in the future. So I wanted to ask you if you foresee that and if so when. I just don't want to get the wrong impression and get my hopes up if you're not ready yet."

Simple enough. Approach him about it without making him feel pressured, and at the same time letting him know that if he needs to wait you will still be supportive. But it'll give you a good idea of when he foresees that with you in the future. But you definitely need to talk to him about it directly. Don't assume or leave hints. You two are adults, and you can have an adult conversation about it. If you can't communicate, then marriage should never be an option. The only thing is to take care so if these hints are NOT indicative of him wanting to get married soon, he won't feel pressured, freaked out, etc. Just be honest about it with him!

Answer 5

well, guys tend to want something that another guy gets even if they never wanted it before. my fiance always said that he wanted to wait until two years after marriage to have children. now that his two closes friends just had their first child, he wants one too.

Answer 6

doesn't sound like a commitment phobe to me.

or maybe he got caught up in the excitement of his cousin's wedding and wants to have a big wedding too.. but if he's really a commitment phobe he may not be thinking much aobut 'marraige' and only be thinking of what a fun party the wedding would be

Answer 7

Ask HIM. Open discussion is the best way to tackle this question. Ask him how he feels about you two getting married.

Answer 8

Mine was the same way. He talked and talked, until I called him on it, then he shut up. When I told him I wouldn't wait any more, he relented and proposed. I think it's something about seeing all of the other guys his age settling down, and realizing that he's about to be left all alone, that knock some sense into him. Next time he talks some mess, just laugh and say you'll take it seriously when you see the ring case in front of you at a jewelry store!

Answer 9

I don't know.

You got to be really careful with a guy like this.  I say don't get to excited about it yet.  You'll just be setting yourself up for a fall (or two or three).  He may eventually propose or he may not, but you need to decide whether or not you can wait around for that day.

Believe me, I know.  He sounds just like my boyfriend.  We were living together for 5 years and had a baby before he proposed.  But he had been talking about things he wanted in his wedding for a really long time.