My health visitor asked a question?

Question

if there was a magic pill to take away your sons problem would you?????????/

my son has down syndrome

Answer 1

Report her. That was inappropriate.

Answer 2

That was rude.I would report her.

Answer 3

I would report her that was way out of line.

Answer 4

WOW!!! Everybody is taking a dump on your health visitor. It doesnt sound like she said it to be ignorant. What parent wouldnt want a magic pill to make their childs troubles go away.

If I had had a magic pill for my niece who died of leukemia, or my niece who currently has leukemia, or my girlfriend when we were 17 who died of leukemia (so on so on) you bet your *** I would give it to them!!!!!!!!

Answer 5

VERY out of line. Holy c**p. What gave her te right to ask you that? jeez.

Answer 6

The health visitor is lacking in social skills.  Her objective was to gauge your coping mechanisms on handling your son's condition.  It is hard to know how to respond, and hard not to get defensive.  I have personally been referred to for a psych consult as the result of my answer to a question like this.  It's like are you saying my child isn't good enough and needs to be fixed or that I regret having him, or that I don't accept him the way he is or that I wish things were different?  It's an extremely offensive question, that I don't feel is appropriate at all.  And I don't think that a disease like leukemia can be compared to a neurological disorder that is not life threatening.

Answer 7

If there was a magic pill I would take away my daughters health problems. Most people don't even know she has a major health problem... but it's always in the back of my mind and she takes medication daily since birth.

Yeah.. if there was a magic pill - I wouldn't think twice. Who wouldn't?

Answer 8

yeh i would

Answer 9

What a disgusting question to ask, I would report her.

EDIT:  the fact that we would use a magic pill in most cases to take away "problems" is not the point, there is NO magic pill to take away the "problem" of downs syndrome, there NEVER will be, and to even ask that question was severely our of line AND unprofessional.

by the way, your son is BEAUTIFUL.

Answer 10

No i wouldn't. When my child was old enough to make the decision for him/herself, then absolutely, I would give him/her the option, but it is not my decision to make.

I don't have down syndrome, so I can't begin to imagine your son's suffering. I do have Tourette's Syndrom, OCD, and ADHD. While obviously, my "problems" cannot compare to your son's, I do know that I see these tricky spots as a gift, and a badge of honor. I would not trade what I have learned from them for an easier life.

Yes life is harder, but I believe that I am a better person for it. Now of course, maybe my child would feel differently, and I would make it his/her choice, but I wouldn't risk being wrong.

Answer 11

Of course you would.  Wouldnt you?  I would.  I mean while yes you love your child, you see every single day the struggles he faces that he doesnt deserve.

If I had a magic pill, I would take away everyone's suffering.

Answer 12

What a rude question!!!!  That was completely uncalled for.  Report that person.

Answer 13

I hope that you would not take it! your son was born with downsyndrome for a reason. If my son had an illness that was for life, i would not take anything away. I would not take a pill to make it go away.

that is sick. she is not a good doctor, i would ask someone else!

Answer 14

that's horrible. my cousin ahs down syndrome and i babysit him every saturday, and he is the most loving, understanding, accepting person i know.

Answer 15

this isnt an ignorant question it is a question of acceptance. if u had not accepted ur sons condition u may have said yes i would like that. if not u would have replied no i wouldnt change a thing. dont think of it as negative she only has ur best interests at heart xx

Answer 16

Have you considered that You were One Of The Chosen Few To Have been given The Gift Of Such A Special and Loving Child!

Your Health Visitor May Have Thought You Were A Little Down,and just wanting to check

You were Coping OK.

You are Obviously A Very Special Mum to

have been Granted Your Son.

Don't Let What are Probably Quite Innocent Comments Fire You Up.

You Are Doing A Brilliant Job,Now Forget

This Remark and Concentrate On Your Beautiful Family.

Answer 17

Hey Sylv yes we were asked the same by our doctor Thomas has autism he is also non verbal ..i just replied No i love him for who he is He's Thomas if you don't like him don't look at him !