My hubby gives everything to his mother,what to do?

Question

whatever my parents give him as shagun or as a respect to him,he simply handovers that to his mom...will he change after child????y dnt he saves money instead of giving it to his mom,even his mother doesnt hesitate to take that from him....his parents and we are in separate sities,his parents dnt help us financially in anyway,i dnt want anything but the thing that troubles me is y not savings instead of giving

Answer 1

It may be his way of showing affection to his mother.

Do not interfer  with  his genorosity. it might  hurt his

feeling. Instead  handle tactfully. You yourself do the

saving part. For eg.: if you have to spend  Rs.50 for

daily marketing  show him its Rs.100.  and do the

savings. Gradualy, he will  find hard to spend too much

on his  parents family.

Answer 2

Don't worry,this is very normal among Indian men.Actually he makes things very comfortable for you only.This is to give you more respect.How you inform your mom-in-law, what happens in your parents house?If you just tell things,will she believes blindly?Lots of married men give out their own money to their parents,as though they got it from their in-laws.This is just to satisfy their parents.These kind of showing small respect to their parents will creates confidence among their parents.

If you feel that you want to save, tell your parents to give anything as a smaller part to your husband and a larger part to you and you save it in your account or in your house.

Never stop your husband from giving anything to his parents,it is his duty to take care of them,whether they give it to you or not.

It's a kind of paying back to his parents or to show his gratitude towards them.

Answer 3

arre simple ,jo ur parents gives ur hubby ,let him do wat he wishes to do ,coz dats his luv and respect fr his parents ..regarding saving and child ,wat ur parents give things fr ur child and u keep dat wid u ,rest make him understnd abt saving ..he shud respect his parents and wat he is doing is rite ..jus make him understd dat wat ur parents gives him ,,shud now be shared for ur sons or so ...jus make him understnd dat u need to build smal blocks now ,only then u wil be able to strategize huge wals fr ur child

Answer 4

Your hubby is a MAMA's BOY. Let him understand this. He will change.

Answer 5

now ..shya...there r some people who say'man who respects mom will love his wife' which is only fair on the men side...respecting is totally diferent from being a mmas boy or 'surrendering' to mom hurting wife...

i think u r husband will change after kid...people do...

and hope people dont give excuses for being 'babies'

Answer 6

Tell him to go live with his mother . You are going to find a real man .  

Answer 7

it is a small life

1 day ur child is also going to grow up and same thing will happen to you also your child will give the shagun to you ..... and that is love

your hubby loves his mom and people who respect there parents will be always nice from heart and so does you hubby and will take care of every thing

and one more thing

if you keep it or his mother keeps the money that will come to you one day

because you are not going to live on this planet for ever

love and peace

Answer 8

Talk to him about all this. be a little senti when you are speaking to him. Try to get some tears in your eyes. I know what Indians like so be great in Bed. Talk to him about all this in Bed only. This will make it easy for you.

Answer 9

Marry Me!

Answer 10

Now you are married, so why are you thinking like that, they are not other. If your husband understand you and your feelings fulfill your desires, provide you whatever you want then you stey away from this matter. He is responsible and know what is right or wrong. change your perception towards him.  

Answer 11

do what you want from your son in future

Answer 12

You have to take him into confidence & tell all your feelings and explain the later consequences of what he is doing today. If he doesn't listens then you can't do anything, b'coz some people don't change even for the better. I think you had mentioned this in your earlier questions.