My hubby says respect and i say that too ,i ve tried love and it was bad ,what do you think?

Question

what is mroe important in relationship

love or respect ,i find respect is more important and speically that we can build a stable family

Answer 1

freindship, if you dont  like someone, love wont carry you through. love causes unrealistic expectations, and respect comes and goes. really liking someone lets you forgive them, and enjoy them

Answer 2

f+ the family. the best possible ground for abuse since the begging of time. only blind insecure child that falsely longs for the "harmony" of the family can pursue such an immature dream. a child that things life should be wasted to other immature children that refuse to grow up for the same reason as he refuses to grow up.  

Answer 3

I would say to stay together love and trust, but you also have to respect each other, but not all couples do that all the time, and they stay together so i would defo say love, cause if you don't have that with your partner there is no point lol. hope that's helped

Answer 4

Love.  Just for the simple reason that I don't love someone I can't respect.  You can respect someone you don't love.  A loveless relationship isn't one I want to be in.

Answer 5

I think putting out is very important.

Answer 6

Love makes us blind and makes people stay together that should not be together. Yes love does bring happiness but it doesn't bring you respect. Respect will bring more happiness and easier compatibleness, yet without love you may not get the respect.

Ok my head is now fried!

This is hard!

Answer 7

respect.  if you each have respect for each othereven without love, it always works out.  love without respect is a terrible way to go.

Answer 8

yes I agree respect and trust are more important after the love stage.

Answer 9

It sounds as though you have a bad defintion of love.  Love is not something that "happens", it is something thst you plan for and make a choice to do.  It is not a "fairy tale" life, love take lots of work and effort.

Ideally, a couple would first be friends.  You have a similar set of likes and dislikes.  You have "common round" on which to base any kind of relationship - similar economic backgrounds, same religion, similar thought on raising children, similar future dreams, similar lifestyles.  Those areas where you differ are non-issues [He likes jazz, you like classical -- so use headphones!]  it is very difficult to "like" somebody if they are constantly attempting to undermine your basic life philosophys.

Usually, when you find somebody like that, you begin to get idea -- I'd like this persone to like me. I'd could be faithful to this person. I could put this person's needs first in my life, before myself, even.  So you start to do thing that the other person may find attractive. You may even adjust some of your lfestyle to suit theirs -- maybe you even buy tickets to a jazz concert.

But either things work out or they don't.  After dating for awhile, maybe you find that this person really is a pig.  So you decide that this is not a person you can love.  Or the opposite -- everything lciks, and YOU MAKE A DECISION that this is the person that you love.

And there is the difference.  "Love" is not a lightning bolt from a blue sky -- it is a conscious decision based on mutual attractions.

So what happens down the road if this person decides to become a jazz drummer and spends your rent money on a $500 set of drums?  Is "love" gone?  Do you get a divorce and move out?

'Course not.  Love is a decision.  This person has certainly departed from what you consider normal, but YOU make the decision to love -- or not.  And here's where the problem lies.

if you see "love" as a lightning bolt from the sky, something that can come and go or be good or bad, then when stuff like this happens you think the "love is gone".  In that case, your next step is to contact the divorce lawyer.

But when you realize that love is a DECISION, then you realize that YOU have the responsibility to keep loving that person in spite of their faults.  Love didn't "go away".  You didn't "fall out of love" -- You made a conscious dixcision to NOT love that person -- and so the fault is yours.  Thereofre, you need to remember that you first decided to love this person, so now you make a decision to recapture that love, and instead of heading for the lawyer you sit down and talk about those drums, and see how qickly they can be returned.

The point is, love is neither good nor bad.  It is a decision you make, and in the case of marriage it is a decision that you need to decide to stick with and support.

Answer 10

If you haven't got respect for each other, them how can you expect love to work.