My husband 'forgot' to send invites to my son's birthday party. Now what?

Question

He'll be nine on Monday, and his party is a week from this Sunday. I feel like garbage - since I've been working two jobs, the family roles have shifted (husband's sort of in his own business/I work eighty hours per week). I absolutely take responsibility for not being on top of this, but is this really a big, overwhelming task? Really? I can hardly believe that he just forgot - huh?! Parents don't just FORGET to invite kids to a birthday party....and what should I do now to deal with my son's disappointment at having a birthday party WITH NO ONE ELSE THERE??!! Help, please.....

Answer 1

Relax it happens.  You still have plenty of time.  If you have the name and addresses of the parents you can find their phone numbers.  Call them tomorrow and explain what happened and tell them about the party.  If you cannot find a phone number then mail out the invitations on Monday and write a short note apologizing for the short notice.  Believe me most parents, if not all, will completely understand.  Your son will have his party with his friends...don't worry.  

Answer 2

Call the other parents, explain that there was a mix-up with the invites, and ask for an email address to send the invitations out to.

Or you could postpone the party a little bit, especially if school's not back in yet where you live.  Then he could wait and invite his class to his party.

Answer 3

Send them out now. Like the second person said, the people will still recieve them!

Please stop stressing, although that is weird how he forgot.

Answer 4

Send them out and write a little note in the inside and explain fro sort notice. and or call the people u r inviting and explain

Answer 5

We men are procrastinators by nature.  I've screwed up many times and paid for it dearly. If he's got his own business and trying to take care of your son maybe you should, if not give him some slack, attempt to understand.  I'm sure he feels like c**p about his mistake.

Answer 6

There's still plenty of time to get invitations sent out. mail takes at max 3 days to run local stuff. Or just call his friends houses and invite them that way.

Women and Men are different, that's why men get so much flak for forgetting birthdays, anniversaries and the like. I don't even remember how old I am half the time.  

Answer 7

GOOD grief woman if it is a week a way he still has time  unless they live on the opposite coast the invitations will be there in a day or 2 and why mail them?Have you never heard of the telephone?

It is a great invention

!You can talk to people far away without mail or being there in person.Try it sometime.

Answer 8

Ever heard of a telephone?  It's a great new invention that allows you to actually SPEAK to people almost instantly.  You don't have to wait for a letter to get there.

Seriously, chill out and make some calls.

Answer 9

dont worry you dont have to mail till 5 days prior to the party its okay. take a breath.

p.s. wish your son a happy birthday for me :]

Answer 10

Make yourself a cup of coffee tomorrow afternoon, then pick up the phone & make some calls to invite the kids to the party.  

Answer 11

EVER Heard of a phone? lol! Dont get sooo stressed! Calm down

Answer 12

Sounds like you are overwhelmed with having 2 jobs and trying to make sure everyone is doing what they are supposed to do.  I don't blame you one bit...It is hard work!!!  However, if your husband has never been in the position where he has had to do much for your kids, it'll take him some time to get used to it.  Men are a little slower with this kid stuff then us moms:)

I wouldn't let it worry you too much.  The party is still a week away.  Mail the invitations out tomorrow and you could always call the children's parents to give them a heads up that there is an invite on the way.  Or.....have your husband do the calling:)  But you may need to stand around the corner to make sure he actually does it!  Lol

Good luck to you.  Don't let it bother you too much life is short and it all works out!!!!  God bless:)

Answer 13

Stop beating yourself up!   That's the first step.      Don't fight with your husband, he probably knows that you are really put out with his absent mindedness.

I have actually found that a week's notice is plenty since the kids/parents tend to forget if you send the invites out too far in advance.  

I would call the parents this weekend and just explain.    Say, I thought my husband was mailing the invites last week, but he forgot, so I'm calling everyone to give them a head's up that they'll be getting an invite.    Then, go ahead and mail the invitations.    Kids always love getting mail.    The parents will appreciate you gave them several days notice to buy the present.     Invite the parents to stay for the party, if you want to provide some additional refreshments.  

As long as there are 3 or 4 friends who show up at the party, your son will have a good time.    Just make sure that you have plenty of activities to keep them entertained.   He won't care, trust me.  

Answer 14

Wrong, fathers very often do forget to send out invitations to birthday parties, that is why it is usually left up to the mother's.  You still have two weeks, send the invitations out now.  

Answer 15

From one mom to another, the bottom line seems like your officially  stressed out. When it comes down to it, it's really not even about the birthday party anymore. You feel overwhelmed, unappreciated, and like everything is on YOUR shoulders. It's understandable.

But remember, your the mom, and no one else can take your place. Try to relax, even if you have to go take a bath after your long day at work, just get somewhere by yourself and relax and gather your thoughts.

The party is a week away and you have time to still make this day great for your son. Don't let him know that your stressing because then he'll feel like he's being a burden and won't enjoy his day anyway. You can either call,  e-mail, or snail mail the invites to the parents. Explain to them (without downing your hubby!) that there was a mix up and you'd really appreciate if their child(ren) can make it to your sons party. You can call then mail it out if they'd like an actual invite in hand to remind them. Or, you can always postpone it to the next weekend if you don't feel there's enough time to prepare the parents. Whatever you do, remember, we're all human and  nobody's perfect. Your hubby forgetting was not a direct attack at you or your son, so take it with a grain of salt and just try to fix the issue at hand.

Buy a snickers and a starbucks and relax...it'll be fine :)