My husband's family used to always say they loved me, but their actions were far from it. I decided to cut my

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ties from them since they were tolerating me for my husband's sake. Now they never come to see him and seldom call. When his mother calls, she guilt trips him about her health and then doesn't call for days. It should not matter how they feel about me and try to keep in touch with him. I don't want him to be punished because of their feelings for me. Can anyone relate or have any good advice?

Answer 1

He can still maintain a relationship with his family, but he does need to stand up for you if and when his family are unpleasant to you. You can also see them from time to time, just be polite, courteous and don't try to become intimate with them because having a close relationship with them just may not be possible.

Answer 2

I totally agree with "next?", your husband is a big boy, he can maintain HIS relationship with anyone he desire.  This goes the same for you.

If you don't feel comfortable being around his family, you don't have to force yourself to be with them.  That doesn't mean that you can be rude to them, you should be courteous, friendly, but you don't have to be buddy with them.

I know in law relationship is always hard, but your husband should back you up, if his parents really don't like you.  He cannot expect you to be buddy with them.

Answer 3

This seems like a very stressful situation.

Have you tried talking about it with your husband? Is he noticing anything about his family? What does he say? In-laws relationship can be a difficult one, not every man knows how to manage this can-be tense relationship of mother and wife. Both of them are extremely important, but have different roles.

The best thing you can do is talk about it with your husband and maybe he could talk to them. But are they doing it bad to you? Bad mouthing you or something? Some mothers are naturally possesive of their sons and it might not be something that has to do with you. Just make sure you get your place and respect. Remember cutting all ties with them, can affect your relationship with your husband and that would be the last thing you would need.

Answer 4

some people r hard headed & just can't b talked 2. she'll come around.

Answer 5

My suggestion would be to make up with his family.  You are putting him in the middle of two people he loves and you should never have done that. You don't provide details but what kind of actions are you talking about? When two people are in love, you deal with stuff you don't want to because you love each other.  Families are one of them.  I did not particularly care about his dad, actually hated the sob but i dealt with him because he was the father of the man i loved. Grow up, make up and then make your hubby stand up for you with his family.