My husband's mom is getting on my nerves?

Question

I like my husband mom and she appears to like me too but lately I am questioning that. His mom has big diamonds on every finger, fur coats on top of fur coats, and she just purchased thi brand new 08 Chrysler Aspen. She is also married. I have not been married to my husband too long, only six months, but we have been together for four years. We take care of each other (like we are supposed to). I am agitated because everytime she calls my husband it is only when she wants money. He calls her but all she talks about is money. The other day my husband said that he would not be able to give her any money because he said that he was going to help me with a few hundred for my tuition since the funds from the military hadn't kicked in yet. His mother said to him..."What, do you have to go through Yolanda(me) in order for me to get any money...She said what do I do for him? I do alot for him as he does for me. If she is married why does she have to keep asking my husband for money and then blame me when she can't get it. He reminded her that I am his husband and that he needs to provide for his wife. It is already hard on me that my husband is overseas and I don' t get to see him like that. What should I do about his mother?

Answer 1

Thank goodness I'm not in your situation.  I don't tolerate fools well and your mother-in-law is a first class twit.  How can anyone with that sort of wealth (rings furs etc) bludge off their children.  She has a husband, which only makes it worse.  I would avoid the mother (if your husband is very close to her and thinks the sun shines out her .....) as much as you can, lest you tell her what she needs to hear (the truth) and possibly damage your marriage.  But talk it over with your husband and I hope together you can make a plan that suits YOU, his wife, his (supposed) number 1 priority.

Answer 2

I don't really think there's anything you can do.

But if your husband wants to put a stop to it, he should just tell her to pawn off her stuff if she wants more money.

It's not fair that his hard earned money is going to frivolous things when you two are trying to start a life together. And she needs to learn to respect that. Good Luck.  

Answer 3

Tell her if her own husband cannot take care of her, she needs to sell those diamond rings, fur coats and car.  

Answer 4

It sounds like your husband already handled the situation quite well.  He didn't give her money and didn't let her think that there was anything wrong with him helping you, his wife, out financially.  I'd talk to him about whether you can afford or should afford to be giving money to his mom at all.  Whatever decision you two make together, I would then back him up on it but I would also let him deal with it.

Answer 5

Greetings,

First of all the man is married to the woman, not his mother. He also has own mind and should be old enough to tell his mother himself without having to go thru any one else.

Second, his mother needs to grow up and find her own income, and she's married to boot, tell her to look at her husband for the money, or make it herself, shoot with all the stuff that whe has, let her have a tag sale, look at all the money she can make!  

Just a suggestion.

Peace,

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