My husband feels comfortable spending most of his paycheck on electronics that he just "has to have" because he knows that his mom will always have his back. She buys him gas in return of running errands for her. And takes us out to eat and such. (I haven't been working because I left my job in another city to marry him and move in with him-- two months later I have a job! You bet I don't spend my money the way he does!).
Anyway. I don't know what to do. It seems like every week he NEEDS to buy something. Whether it be ANOTHER guitar, ANOTHER video game that he already has, but "needs" it for his other console... ANOTHER computer because the one he has is running slow. Yesterday he blew his whole paycheck on a computer and now he's broke. His mom takes care of his gas but he eats nothing at work because he has no money. Oh, but he complains when he has to buy groceries and stuff we both use. Stuff that he used freely without asking me when I used to stay over at his place over the weekends before we got married. I was working at the time so I didn't mind, but now that I've been broke for a while I've had the nerve to ask him to buy those things that he uses too, which I also use. And he has the nerve to say he's buying ME stuff!
Anyway. I wish he was more rational when spending. It's bad enough we live with his mom. When I was living with my mom, I was always used to imagining that I don't HAVE my mom, and that if I spend my money foolishly I alone will deal with the consequences because she won't bail me out. Now I am grateful for my mother's strict ways. But my husband's mom is always more than willing to "save" him and spoil him. This really worries me. Will he always be spending this way? Or will he "change?" This makes me very nervous. One of the excuses he gave for buying the computer was that he was very depressed over an argument we had and he needed to feel better. He is very emotional as it is... so if he goes on a spending spree every time he gets depressed, he is going to be our financial ruin! Either that, or we'll be his momma's kids forever! What can I do with this beloved but irrational boy of mine?
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