My husband allowed me to have a relationship with a woman and i'm in love with her?

Question

He now wants me to stop seeing her alltogether and i'm very confused as to what to do. She wants me to move in with her but i'm torn. Any advice will be helpful. Please don't be mean i'm already hurting enough.

Answer 1

hmm. i cant help but wonder why he let you do that. I mean he's already MARRIED to you. In  my opinion, it's completely not your fault. and now there's a tough situation. Do you trust him enough to tell him how you feel? What made him want you to stop seeing her? did he find out? if so, tell him what happened. does she know you have a husband?In the end, figure out who you want to spend your life with and dont do this again.

Answer 2

you people say you cant love more than one person. i dont agree.your in a hard place. its really to bad you cant all be together and be happy.wish i could help you. best of luck.

Answer 3

continue having a relationship with them both, then give yourself a deadline - ie 6 months, and see how you feel at the end of that period.

Perhaps you could be at home with your husband during the week and go to your girlfriend's at the weekend.

I think at the end of this period you will be clear where your heart lies.

good luck

Answer 4

did this start as a game involving the three of you? if so,,,, you where all playing with fire and someone is gonna get burned. this sounds like your husband is feeling the heat. your torn between both of them... this has nothing to do with the L*****n issue dear this is emotional feelings between human beings. you owe it to yourself to be happy. if the three of you started something that now only two of you want to take part in, you have to do what is best for number one, that being you dear. good luck!

Answer 5

You married your husband...

Answer 6

You must follow you heart and do what is right for you no one can tell you what to do  

Answer 7

Do what makes you happy... It's a natural right that you and everyone else deserve...

Best of luck :)

Answer 8

First of all, this is 2008.  You do not need permission to have a relationship with someone from your "husband."  And you shouldn't listen to a man when he tells you who you can love.  Second, it sounds like your hubby didn't think your relationship with this woman would flourish.  Typical male attitude that homosexual relationships are not real.  Prove that it is real love, and divorce this loser.  He sounds like a monster.

Answer 9

I guess you need to make your decision and stick to it.  I think in your heart of hearts you know what you want.  If you really loved your husband, you would never have started a relationship with anyone else, female or otherwise.  And if he really loved you, he would never have allowed it.  Its not the fact that she's a woman, its the fact that three way relationships almost never work.  I appreciate that you're in a horrible situation, I don't envy you at all.  Go with your gut instinct, and do it quickly before anyone gets hurt.  Good luck  

Answer 10

Your husband is a fool.

He played with fire and he's burned BIG time.

You didn't do the right thing either.  You've both made commitments to each other, ones that do NOT include others.  You have an obligation to fulfill those commitments.  If children are involved, even more so.  

You've made a promise to him, not a condition.  Just because something else has come around that has your attention now, doesn't mean your promise has changed.

Do what you need to do.  The best thing is to probably move out of the area where this other woman is.

Don't play with things God never meant for you to play with!  There are consequences as you now see.

This will take a LOT of work, especially on your part.  Many of these answers are so politically correct and WRONG.  You do NOT have an obligation to be happy, you have an obligation to do the right thing.  Doing the right thing and keeping your commitments can help you with that happiness.  Your heart (emotions) is what got you into this mess.  Zip your pants up and USE YOUR BRAIN!

Answer 11

are you still in love with your husband?

you made a lifelong commitment to him. if you don't love him anymore then leave him.

but you should do a lot of thinking about your feelings with him and in your heart what you wanna do.

Answer 12

I figure you need to do some soul-searching and find out deep down who you love more...it is understandable to be confused about your feelings in such a situation, but the only way to sort out your feelings is to ask yourself what you really want...nobody else will be able to give you a clear cut answer except yourself...

Answer 13

You seriously need the help of a professional psychologist...maybe even a psychiatrist...  I would encourage you to find out 'who' you are first...before making a decision one way or the other...and hope your husband waits, at least, till you've found out.  Him 'allowing' you to pursue another woman may have been a 'turn on' for him, but it's biting him on the butt now...isn't it?  However, 'the situation' isn't his fault...it's YOURS...you should have known better than to partake outside your committed relationship...  Please, get help...and, don't forget the power of prayer (that is NOT to say 'being bisexual' is a sin...just that you need all the help you can get...and God is great at helping...  Just try to be honest with Him)...

Answer 14

You did this. You're husband may have agreed to it, but he didn't intend for things to get to where they are.  Never the less, he is at fault but, not nearly as much as you! You were being and are a selfish person, you can''t have your cake and eat it too. You have just ruined your marriage, things will never be the same and from what I understand same s*x relationships rarely last as long as your marriage SHOULD have.  I had a girlfriend that wanted a girlfriend - and you know what I did? I dumped her ***, for being selfish and wanting more than what I had to offer, which was MORE than enough.  What do you women think another woman can do for you that a man cant?  Like a person said before - "Do not play with what God did not intend for you to play with." and whoever said "it's 2008", is living in a fantasy world and needs to come back to reality, if you marry someone you are FULLY committed to them and them alone.  I hope you will never make a poor decision like this again, you need to think of other people a little bit, and not be so d**n selfish. Your husband is probably so insecure he doesn't know what to do with himself right now... His wife would rather a woman... WOW, I feel for him. GL to you both, you need to say some prayers and MEAN it.

Answer 15

First, for your husband to let you do this, he is a fool on so many levels too long for me to explain in this post. And for you to accept it and try it out, shows that you didn't fully love your husband as much as you thought.

The bottom line is, who truly cares about you more, and who do you truly care about more....your husband, or the woman? Which ever it is should be your answer as to what to do. You might even choose to be with neither.