My husband an i are having problem ?

Question

he cheated on me more then once caught him those many times but i still love him but i want a divorce i can't take it anymore. what should i do...

Answer 1

you should leave, stay with friends or family who will support your decision to leave - if they don't exist, go to a shelter (you will most likely have to wait until there's a space).  

Once you leave you should decide: I am going to stay here for X amount of time and not go back - something like 3 - 6 months.  An amount of time that you feel comfortable with achieving.  Then stick to it.

During that time you should go to counselling alone: marriage counselling if you can, and also some sort of women's support group.  You should also read some books on regaining your self esteem, getting over cheating men - everything that's happened to you.  You should also take up 1 course or hobby that you always wanted to do but have put off.  But make sure you sign up for an actual class, or go to the gym weekly, or whatever it is: make sure you go to it.  

At the end of the 3 months, you should look for your own place and get into decorating it just as you want it - with no smelly man to pick up after!  You still may not have decided t odivorce, but you will have gained absolute freedom from him, and independence & control over your own life again.  At this stage, you are now free to make the decision, and secure enough to decide freely if you want a divorce.  And of course, you should divorce him, but even if you don't, you'll have taken back your self respect.

Answer 2

if "you can't deal with it", seek divorce...you answered your own question....BUT, make sure it is what you truly want...

Answer 3

make a good plan before you leave. if you dont have a job get one save some money and find someone to stay with and then go after him for everything cheating b*****d you deserve better  

Answer 4

If your husband treats you good and loves you. Give him one more chance.But are you giving him enough s*x. Most women fail to realize that men need s*x 2x more than woman. If you gave him a little more s*x this should reduce his thoughts for lust. True Story.

Answer 5

are in love with him or do you love him ? there is a diffrence you know

what is it thats holding you and why are you trying to keep this thing together , you done nothing wrong , the saying goes - if you let something go and it comes back its meant to be , if not then thats the end - he is the one that should have asked this wuestion how do i save my marriage ? you are not guilty of anything - be proud of you for standing up with this for so long , take a bow girl i applore you - remeber we females 2008 strong indepenant and secured woman and stand our ground we are who we are and loving it - tell him that he is to sort this out get help for yourself - he need to do the rest - good luck  

Answer 6

Get help for yourself and see why you put up with all that cheating.  Get a divorce.

Answer 7

Get a divorce if that is what you want.  You can use Legal Aid if you have little money.  Just tell him where the door is and not to let it hit him on the backside on the way out.  Or you get your things together and go elsewhere.  It's up to you.  But leave before he brings you a surprise you don't want, like STD's or some other woman's kid.  

Answer 8

You may think you still love him.  If you really do, maybe a separation.  This way you can regain your self esteem and see if he can possibly stay faithful.  If he can't you have a head start on your life and you will feel so much better about yourself.

Answer 9

Divorce the cheating C O C K head.  

You will thank yourself later for getting rid of such an insensitive person.  You deserve better.

Answer 10

if he is giving you good c**k, then work things out with him