My husband and I have adopted two children in the past 5 months and I'm having trouble bonding to my youngest.

Question

My oldest was a year and a half when we got her and my youngest was a newborn when we brought her home. I had no trouble bonding with my oldest since we were expecting her and knew she was coming for years but my youngest was an unexpected surprise. It is maybe because I am a new Mom having to adjust not only to being new to motherhood but also to two children and all of sleepless nights that my newborn brings? I am trying, really trying but it just doesn't seem to be happening with my newborn like it did with our oldest daughter. HELP!

Answer 1

WELL I THINK U SHOULD TAKE HIM OUT FOR I CREAM AND TO TOYS R US AND NOT THE OTHER ONE AND YOUR HUSBEND WILL TAKE THE OTHER ONE  TO DO THE SAMETHING

Answer 2

what you need to do is make them feel comfortable with you by spending a lot of time with them, making them feel that they can come to you with any problem they have, and to be strict, but also a loving mother. This wont happen over night, you have to just give this a try and sooner or later they'll open up....