My husband and I have been together for a few years. The fizzle is fading. How do I get the spark back? ?

Question

I want spice but I think my husband would be happy with complacency. My feelings are often hurt when I feel more like his buddy than his wife. How can I get the romance that I want?

Answer 1

Buy him a six pack, and turn on ESPN, and unzip his pants.  You will get the spark back, and he will wait on you hand and foot, and do whatever you want him to do.

Answer 2

I'm sure you meant "sizzle" because if the "fizzle" is fading, that means the sizzle is returning.

It's immature to think a marriage will be sizzling.  Sizzle is for infatuation, not love.  Love is deeper and more meaningful and more satisfying.  You can have an occasional "sizzle moment", but people who share tax returns don't have a lot of "sizzle."

Answer 3

as the woman your job is to cook meals that he likes and keep the house clean...perhaps even bring home some supplements for him that increase his libido.

Answer 4

The "sizzle" is fading fo pizzle fizzle

Although not.me makes an excellent point...

Answer 5

It is normal for a guy to act like that. Because of some reasons like the changing of face from amateur to mature. The answer is simple. All you have to do is let your husband feel true love that no one can give him. s*x is not a solution. The only solution is to consult God's word from the Bible or in the church . This is the best solution for your questions. Many couples have tried this kind of solution and they end happy. GOD Bless you.          

Answer 6

I think it all begins with a conscious effort. Try talking to him about it and then turn your seductive charms on, Be creative...witty... and s**y! but nothing is worth the effort if he isn't willing to go along with it.  

Answer 7

Dear susan,

          life is very simple don't make the relationship complicated ; As you asked the fizzle is fading I suggest you forget about s*x while being with your husband don't even think about your fantasy or feelings for few days.

  Just think about your husband's feelings try to make him happy with tiny things and small efforts which makes him happy like show your interest in his hobbies , belongings , whatever he do just let him feel like he is the best & the only guy who did this in a right way let him feel like Superman (fulfill man's ego) slowly he will also change & start thinking about your feelings too. If this doesn't solve your problem I need some more details about you & your husband like age , married life (years) , kids ,lastly your relationship with (in&outside the bedroom) thoughts of you both like what you both feel while making love do you believe in free s*x & which country you belong etc.

you can mail me at [e-mail]

         with good wishes

                   AASHISH (India)

Answer 8

I think I can answer for your husband because I may be just like him and you may be just like my wife. Being good friends after a few years is great, each respects the other and each supports the other. For me my wife lost her sparkle, nothing in particular but I just don't get excited emotionally or physically with her any more. What would make me excited again?? well some adventurous activity might help - but I'd have to be conditioned into the emotional connection again I think. You might ask why I don't take the initiative - well I don't know but I guess the effort seems too much for what I perceive I get back.

I can do without regular s*x as long as the irregular s*x is new and fresh - not what happens to me at present. I have tried spicy stuff toys and other fun but I guess it takes two to get emotionally connected at the same time to make it work again. This may sound a bit off but getting together with another couple and talking about why we don't connect and exploring ways to connect does mildly excite me - maybe my voyeuristic streak? Maybe something that turns you on and him on simultaneously might do the trick - I'm thinking about how I could introduce this in my relationship - will let you know if it works. BTW doesn't have to be something like I'm suggesting but something that you would be excited about and you judge he would be also..

Answer 9

That sucks... I have been there and know what you are going through.  Unfortunately, he has to put the effort in... if he doesn't, it just doesn't work.  That's how it was with us... I tried everything I could think of, but she wasn't trying at all...

It takes two, right?

Good luck... hang in there... if you ever need to talk to someone, feel free to email me... I have been there, and I know it's tough and it hurts.

Answer 10

How far are either (both) of you willing to go to get the "fizzle" back?

Takes work, how much effort are (both of) you willing to make?

It's not a one way street...it will take both of you to make it work

Answer 11

if ur huby is not doing ne thing then i m always there for ur help message me ne time i will b there for u ne time... lol take care bye

Answer 12

Talk to him about it. Tell him exactly like you have here. Make him realize that you love him, but you also have needs as well. Suggest to him that you could do a little roleplay, or even his wildest fantasy.  

Answer 13

Try to do something different to him ie... wearing a s**y dress inside your house , seduse him jokes only hehehe,,,  

Answer 14

This might be a little extreme (pardon the oxymoron) but if you've ever heard of a song titled "Dip it Low" by Christina Milian, you might enjoy this part of the song where she says..

"It's late at night,

He's comin' home,

Meet him at the door with nothin' on,

Take him by the hand,

Let him know what's on."

Basically, try and be seductive. Look up the song, it's very "spicy"

Answer 15

Enjoy what you have, don't  desire what you don't have. Relationships change and evolve with time. Keep it fresh, stay fun, always say yes to s*x--no matter the place or time, make it happen, and never ever take your relationship for granted. Good Luck and thank you for caring about your relationship.