My husband and I want to adopt a baby girl, we have 2 kids already, the youngest is 2. Domestic adoption?

Question

Is a domestic adoption possible, and is it ok if our other kids are bio children? Their ages are 2 and 9, and we want more children but we would rather give a home to a baby who needs it than have more kids. Is this possible for a domestic adoption, in the US?

Answer 1

I also agree with going thru foster care. First, it will be WAY cheaper. Also, you might want to consider a boy. For some reason, boys have a lot harder time getting adopted than girls. So if you are doing it to give a child a home then a boy will need it more. If you don't do it thru the foster system, a lot of times the birthmother doesn't know what gender she is having and you'll have a better (quicker) chance if you'll take whatever she has.  As far as having kids, if you don't go thru foster care, usually the birthmother picks and some like for their babies to have siblings, others don't. There will be one who will think your family is absolutely perfect for her baby.

Answer 2

Have you considered becoming foster parents?  We have three children who came to us as fosters, whom we have since adopted.  It's a great way to go!  Two of them are biological siblings, but you'd never know that the other isn't blood related.  They get along like very normal siblings! We just can't imagine our lives without them.  In some cases if you adopt a foster child, there are subsidies available which help greatly.  It's worth checking out!

Answer 3

yes

Answer 4

Go ahead and make more babies, because there are more families trying to adopt babies than there are babies availible.

I believe it is especially difficult to be an adoptee in a family with bio children, it really makes it apparent how you have different genes. It sucks growing up not looking like anyone, acting, talking or thinking like anyone else - especially your adoptive family. Raising a stranger's child is a different ball game all together. While you may be able to love another's child "as your own" there is no garuntee that baby will be able to feel your love, as the grief of losing one's mother and connection to family is so deep and strong.

Do you think it would be easy to sign away your parental rights to one of your children? Do you imagine it's easy for someone who is in a vulnerable position that makes them feel unable to raise their child? Do you want to be a party to such separation?

Answer 5

Of course it’s possible, there are some factors that might mean you’ll have a longer wait. Even more since most people want infants. Just get in touch with an adoption agency having two bio kids wouldn’t be a problem. Have you thought about the Fos to Adopt program. You become a foster parents and are placed with a child that is more likely to be available for adoption.

Answer 6

Every state has a state included adoption program.  I found in Maine that there were many children of various ages available.  Internationally you would be able to find a baby, but within state it was many years to wait for an infant.  It is a bit of

a challeng to adopt a child who has been thru abuse....but I also found that my internation infants

required more than I figured...the first weighed 7 1/2 lbs at 3 1/2 mo. and the second

has several learning disablities.

No matter what child you take you probably will never know the real story.....and you just figure it is up to you to take it as it is, deal with all the things as they come, don't treat them any differently than your own blood or they will always feel that they were "saved".  They are just another human being that needs love.

My sister and I were both adopted.  Different like oil and water.  Loved unconditionally.

Answer 7

Yes, what you've mentioned is completely possible,  I think they usually prefer the adopted child to be younger than the youngest biological sibling, which is fine because you want to adopt a baby.

Like a couple of the other posters, I would also suggest foster care, but I know that isn't always an option to everyone.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do, I wish you and your family well. x*x