My husband and I want to adopt a baby?

Question

We already have 4 and we want to adopt before we have another one. We have twins that are 1, a 2 year old and a 3 year old. We really want to adopt so please HELP!!!

Answer 1

No one's giving away babies on the internet.

Answer 2

What's your question?  Help you how?

Answer 3

Sorry, out of unwanted babies this week.  Check back next week.

Answer 4

My parents are in the process of adopting. I am 21 and pregnant with my second child. I know that when my father and stepmother were almost finished with their paperwork I went to meet with the social worker and they asked me questions about my relationship with my father and my stepmother. I am very very close to the both of them so I was able to answer a lot of the questions in their benefit lol. There's a ton of paperwork, and a long wait. So if you do want to adopt you should research different countries and different expectations and start on it. If you become pregnant during the adoption process it can put your adoption on hold and you have to start all over again after you have the baby. SO if you are serious about adopting you have to take all of these things into consideration.

Answer 5

Oh, for heaven's sake!  If you're serious, don't do it!  

I am a cautionary tale, my dear.  I had 2 children who were 2 1/2 and 10 months old when I started the adoption process.  Seven months later we were referred a 2 year old.  I was completely deluded and thought adopting would be the same as having another biological child.  Don't be as naive as I was!  The child we adopted was grieving and our other children were jealous of the attention the new child was getting.  When adopting an older baby or toddler, be prepared for the absolute worst-case scenario:  frightening tantrums, head-banging, night terrors, using bowel movements as a control mechanism (as in doing #2 just where and when you don't want them to...like in their beds, on the couch, then smearing it on the wall to get your attention), projectile vomiting, reactive attachment disorder, post-adoption depression, you name it.  

If you want my advice, DON'T ADOPT until your youngest child is AT LEAST 5 years old.  That way they can somewhat understand what is happening.  And, do everything you can to educate yourself on adoption and attachment issues.  That means not only reading but talking to others who have adopted.  Be aware that there are a lot of fairy tales out there.  Adopting isn't for everyone.  It is NOT the same as giving birth, trust me.  These children have a whole different set of issues to contend with.  

I believe in adoption.  I think it's a beautiful thing, given the right circumstances.  Please don't think adding another baby through adoption right now is "cute".  You will be turning your life and your family upside down.  I've been down that road and I wouldn't recommend anyone with young bio children adopt until their children are in school and they can dedicate one-on-one time to the newly adopted child.  Believe me, they're going to need it.

Answer 6

Okay, this has GOT to be a joke.  I had 3 kids under 2 at one time.

The only thing I 'wanted' was sleep.  

If you really have a 'need' to adopt, a child won't fill it.  You have 4 kids under 4?

Adopted kids need more than you can offer, I assure you.

I think you need to talk to a therapist to find out about your 'needs'.  What is missing?

Answer 7

It sounds as though you have your hands full already!

The internet is no place to shop for a child