My husband and i are going thru the adoption process any poiners?

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My husband and i are going thru the adoption process any poiners?

Answer 1

seriously consider open adoption because trust me, your child will be so thankful to know their story and about where they came from and all that stuff. it doesn't just benefit your child but it also is a benefit for the birth mother. even if you may not want to do that at least consider it and put yourself in the birth mother's shoes. its tough not having any contact at all. also don't get your hopes too high up because everything may go well but at the last minute you could lose the adoption. other than that, everything is mostly a wonderful experience. good luck !

Answer 2

Realize that there are going to be bumps in the road - deal with them as they come up and keep pressing forward.

Every day I tried to do something, at least one thing, to move the adoption process along.

Knowing what I know now, without hesitation I'd do it all over again for this wonderful child.

Answer 3

Be honest. I'm adopted and my parents were ALWAYS open and honest about the process, what info they were given about my biological family and told me if I ever wanted to meet my bio-family they would support me 100%. Because of that honesty I never once thought of my self as anything but their child and when I did meet my biological mother they were there 110%. I now enjoy having all these wonderful people in my life and also in my son's life. Good luck to you. Remeber just because a child is not born from your womb does not mean it was not born from your heart.

Answer 4

be honest

Answer 5

Ask yourself--can you handle adopting a child who has other parents, and other family, and will grow up with you but not OF you?

If you have trouble with this--turn back now.  Adoption is NO picnic, and not at ALL like raising your own children.

Do some reading:

http://www.nancyverrier.com/pos.php

http://www.adoptioncrossroads.org

http://www.origins-usa.org

http://www.babyscoopera.com

A study of adoption:

http://www.angelfire.com/or/originsnsw/w...

Answer 6

I'm adopted =)

And if you go through the process you should think for a couple things. Its not up to you to do a open or closed adoption but if they ask for any opinion, do a open adoption so that that option is there for the child you adopt. I have a closed adoption and my little brother is a open. I've always been jealous of his being open. Also, my mother adopted me and my twin brother and then went to adopted another kid when we we're 4. The 2 baby's of choice had... issues? Well, one baby had aids and the other was drug addicted. My mom decided to adopt the baby that was drug addicted because having two 4 years old and then a newborn with aids didn't seam very safe. So if you have other children think of them through out the process. Think of the age you would like, the area from where you adopt, so on and so forth. Also, keep in mind there are THOUSANDS of adoption agencies, not just 1.

Answer 7

Do your research.  Read everything you can get your hands on!  

Get your documents in order, all your tax forms, birth certificates, marriage certificates, etc.

Get a really good pen because there is a lot of paperwork!

Take this time to enjoy evenings out, sleeping late, and all the things that tend to disappear once kids come along!

Good luck!

Answer 8

I am also going to be going through an adoption process very soon. I am a foster parent so I don't have a lot of things to do actually.. The lawyer will be drawing up all the paperwork needed then they will meet with us to sign, etc... You are a wonderful person for adopting and Good Luck with everything....

Answer 9

I was adopted as a child.  My only advice to you is to be very open with your child about the adoption and be very understanding of the child's needs.

Answer 10

yeah, don't adopt.

Answer 11

Do everything suggesting and keep on thing in mind.  Time will slow down beginning the day your paperwork is submitted.  Keep busy and go on vacation, home improvement, learn a new hobby.  Keep busy!!!

Remember that adoption is not a competition and that yor ability is not being judged.  Locate a really good support group because there will be days when you ask yourself "why in the world am I doing this?".  This will probably come during holidays.  Best of luck to you!  Put on your seatbelt and get ready for the bumpy ride.

Answer 12

No joke - seek advise from an attorney that specializes in adoption. There are several laws that you must consider regardless of the type of adoption you aim for. If you use a 'normal' attorney - they would be more likely to miss important details about the adoption.

As for your child - - Love them, and be honest with them from day 1. Ensure that everyone in the family is supportive of the adoption - (just in case you have children already - or relatives that are opinionated - set them straight on your decision so that they know how strongly you feel about adoption.

My brother is adopted - I was 8 yrs old when we accepted him into our family (he was only 2 days old at the time). He is now 32. I asked him several years ago about how he felt knowing that he was adopted - he said that he was glad that we didn't hide it from him.

4 years ago, my wife and I started with the adoption process (home study, adoption attorney, advertising, etc...) Its very expensive and can be very emotional.... Birth mothers backing out - false hopes, etc.... After about a year, we decided to give up. We now have a son of our own, but we may consider trying to adopt again in years to come....

Good luck!

Answer 13

I too am in the adoption process of my step son who i have raised since 6mths and is now 2yr 9mths.

Im lucky that we already have residency order and his mum is cool for me to adopt as she has no contact or interest.

So good luck to you xx

Answer 14

Who's gonna want a couple of married adults?

  I'd suggest you spare yourself the aggrevation and pursue other areas of interest.