My husband and i cant seem to stop fighting over money?

Question

my husband and i got married 5 months ago and all we ever seem to do is fight about money. were 9000 in debt. we have a joint bank account which now seems to make things worse. and on top of it he has a better job.. hes the mail man and i am a cashier at cracker barrel, i try to tell him fighting over it doesn't help anything. i don't know what to do anymore, and when we are fighting he always tells me if I'm unhappy i can leave.. or when I'm upset about something he doesn't acknowledge it, just pushes it under the rug.. but when hes upset the world should stop for him... it doesn't help were both pisces, i don't know what else to do... how should i talk to him where it would catch his attention?

Answer 1

Yes talk with him! Communication is key and its important that he understands that he cannot just shrug off your feelings and expect the world to stop when he needs to talk. Let him know that fighting does not help the situation and there really is no reason to fight. You are only $9K in debt, do you both know how great that is? Just work together and come up with a budget that works well for the both of you. Working together will be so wonderful for the two of you and it will bring you closer together to stay on the right track! Good luck!

Answer 2

go to dave ramseys web site he will tell ya how to get out of debt and stay out

Answer 3

find someone rich and less whiney

Answer 4

Next time when he tells you "if  your unhappy you can leave " give him a big sloppy kiss . If he responds to that in a negative way then i would say its time to move on . Smile life is to short as it is  

Answer 5

You need to come up with a viable way to take care of your debt. Consolidate or something that will make your bills more manageable.

Having a joint checking account is ok as long as you don't take advantage of each other by buying big ticket items w/o consulting one another. He needs to quit telling you if you don"t like it leave. I would have left by now. Sit down and talk about things calmly.

Answer 6

I agree...Dave Ramsey!

Answer 7

9000 is nothing. Try 100,000 and then let me know how much you fight over money.

Itemize everything that comes in and goes out. Look at it together. Stick to your plan to get out of debt. Focus on one bill at a time. The one with the highest interest rate. Pay it off first and so on. Don't apply for any new credit cards or buy any big purchases. Eat at home and don't go out so much.

The more you complain the worse it gets. Just accept the fact that you have to pay it off and do it. See yourself doing it. You didn't get the debt in a day so you can't pay it off in a day. Stop stressing.  

Answer 8

my hubby and i were like that once until i let him take control over it . it doesnt mean i dont know where our money goes . whenever i had a question about soemthing i try ask nicer before he thinks i am suspecting him of cheating cause guys do tend to spend more when they re cheating  . anyway it had worked for us . now i just pretend  to ask him how much is the maximum i can spend today and see what his #ss go to say  

Answer 9

MAke up a budget and stick to it.

Linda