My husband and i had fight and i said bad words....

Question

when its usually b4 my period ,,i am a mess ..and i get angry easily...

we started to fight over a very simple thing ,,,then i got more angry and i opened the past files !!! and for the first time in our marriage life,,i said bad words to my husabnd ,,,i am 26,he is 37 and old fashion and polite...he was angry that i shouted and wanted to hit me....i am so worry...i don't know what to do...

Answer 1

All women have hormones and tend to rage about when they act up.  If your hormones are out-of-control, I would seek a doctor for some medication or therapy.  Now, on the other hand, marriage is work from day one!  You and your husband will have spats in life, that is a given!  When you feel stressed and need room to breathe due to hormones or unforeseen circumstances, communicate to him about how you are feeling.  Ask him to be patient while you deal with these hormonal demons.  Reassure him that he is the love of your life and you would never want to damage your marriage with hurtful words or irrational behaviors.  Show him the same respect that you need in return!  Communication is so important in a marriage.  Sounds like you got hold of a good man, so please remember that he is human and has feelings too!  

I have posted a link to a Dr. Phil advice column that I think will help you a lot.  The title is "Communicating with Emotional Integrity"

Answer 2

All couples have fights- but maybe you should consider marriage counseling. In the meantime, say something like this:

"Honey, I'm sorry about the argument. I love you, and I hate that I hurt you. I was acting bitchy and being rude, and I'm sorry. I'm PMSing, and I know that isn't an excuse, but I just felt out of control. But it's NOT okay to threaten to hit me- even if you didn't DO it, or didn't MEAN it- it's not okay. If you threaten me again, we are going to have to make some serious decisions about this marriage. Now, I just want to put this whole stupid thing behind us. What do you say?"

Edit: I didn't read the whole question. I know that the both of you were angry, but that does NOT give him the right to hit you- even to SAY that he wants to hit you. He was angry, and in the heat of the moment, probably didn't think about what he was saying- but still. That isn't an excuse.

Answer 3

First of all, all couples have fights, however that does not give one or the other the right to hit not matter how angry one gets.  You and your husband need to sit down and discuss in a calm matter what happened, and work through it.  

Answer 4

I think from reading your response and his attempt to be abusive

You should file for a divorce

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Answer 5

Hey, it's called being married. Tiffs are par for the course. A kind opportune word should melt any unlikely frostiness

Answer 6

Not good in a marriage. Sit down and talk it over and come to an agreement that no more cussing or intentions of hitting are to happen.  Marriage and disagreements will always happen but keeping them civilized is the hard part. Don't get so angry that you will both regret the words and the actions.  Sometimes getting loud is a way to get the anger out - just keep it cool with the cussing/bad words.  None of us are saints and we all make mistakes. Good Luck.