My husband and son do not get along......help!!!!!!!?

Question

I have been with my husband for almost 9 years. Him and my son, who was 7 when we got married and is now 16, do NOT get along. I try not to take sides but I have to say, my husband is wrong. He demands respect yet wont give it to my son. He never has learn how to balance love with discipline. He gets mad over stupid c**p, room isnt clean or something. Even our son, together, doesn't show him much respect. to me the common denominator is my husband. But it kills me! My older one is my life! We are very close! And it was him and I alone for a long time. His real father walked out a few years ago.

I have gotten to the point where I will not leave them alone together and they can not even talk to each other.

what can I do?

Answer 1

Take them fishing. It's always a thrill when they bond in such a way. Maybe he won't give him respect but maybe they'll be closer together.Better yet friends!

Find something they both love to do and let them bond together. You can't hate when you do something you love!

Answer 2

You identified the problem your self.

You cannot demand respect if you do not give respect.

And your husband will never get your sons if he does not give your son any.

So what can you do? nothing really. Your husband and son have to make the change. They must have one thing in common they love you? Ask them both to work it out and try hard for you if nothing else.