My husband annoys me?

Question

one night i was on the kitchen and he scares me,,i get so mad but i didnt tell him cause i dont want to to fight..i dont know if its a joke or what but i dont really like it.when i go to bed he ask me what i get upset about i told him im just tired cause i dont want to have an argument.when i woke up in the morning i pack his lunch for work ..before he go at work i told him that your so annoying..cause thats really i feel.i didnt mean to hurt his feeling,he get mad and he take off his ring and told me bad words which hurts me.i cried because he take off his ring..what should i do please help?

Answer 1

you should tell him that he scared you that night.. ( well it's a joke to him but not for you right )..

Answer 2

It doesn't matter what words you use when expressing your feelings.  You don't have to be a politician when telling somebody they annoy you.

Your husband should be considerate of your well-being at all times.  Of course, this goes both ways.  Taking off his ring in response to a legitimate complaint, is childish and inconsiderate.

You have to flip the situation.  Take your ring off also, and threaten worse until he changes his behavior.  He is using the old fear tactic to scare you into letting him continue annoying you.  You have to let him know you will stand your ground until it stops completely!

Your only other option, is to give in, and be annoyed the rest of your life.

Answer 3

You have to tell him you don't like being scared.  That shouldn't start a fight and telling him that is better than telling him he annoys you.  Apologize to him for telling him he annoys you and explain that you just don't like him scaring you and it bothers you.