My husband blames me for everything?

Question

So, my husband blames me for everything that go wrong. But he never wants to see what he do. He says he wants to take charge but he don't do it and I have to pick up the slack and he takes the credit. Then I'm fat and close to a heart attack but he couldn't make weight for the military. He tears me down and says I'm a baby when I cry. I'm so fed up but I'm scared to just leave we have a kid. I'm so torn and depressed and my hair is falling out Ineed advice

Answer 1

Tell him to shut up and go sit down. He can't even take care of a simple thing let along take charge of major issues and therefore you must do it yourself.  

Answer 2

Sounds like he is trying to play "Sargent". He is controlling and irrational. Now is the time to move on. Take the baby, and leave. He sounds very shallow to have spent the money all on himself. Don't listen to people who say "He'll change" as they are not in your situation. If it doesn't feel right to you "Get Out". Do not put up with his controlling attitude. He is bound to get worse, not better.

Answer 3

It's hard when you know the truth and someone believes their lies. hold to what you know is true and find support. trust! i have been lied on and believed the lies. One day I just woke up and knew who i was and what i needed to do to stand up for myself. Just do it. You are half way there. Stand up for yourself and if he cant see your wealth, prepare your life just incase you decide you can do better without him. Stay up!

Answer 4

I have the same c**p in our house... the day he sees anything through to the end is the day I shoot golden coins out my behind... BUT IT'S ALWAYS MY FAULT!

Answer 5

Same Here! We are having financial problems...he works and I stay home with the kids...I don't go out or spend money to help...he just got a 15,000 bonus, 4,000 back from taxes and 2000 left over from my school loans and we have nothing and its all my fault! He bought me all these expensive gifts and I never thought anything about it...I just thought we were fine finacially until he started hounding me and harassing me any time I did take my kids out or when I asked him to take them to the zoo...he kept telling me we were broke and I kept saying how is that possible...its just not possible until I finally pulled all the bank records and saw that he (we) were just spending money like we were rich! He bought me an ipod touch, lap top, coach purse, expensive purfume and so forth!!!!!!!! OMG I was so mad when I saw this cause If I would have known there is no way I would have been ok with this...I just figured since he runs a bank and handles the finances that he knew what he was doing...and NOW its all MY FAULT cause the gifts were for me...and bills that he ran up before marriage and many other things...I need to find a job desperately but I don't know what to do cause I don't have any support from my family...they want me to suck it up and live like this until my youngest is in kindergarten and then i can get a job and leave him...isn't that some BS???? My daughter just turned 2....

Answer 6

you need to talk to him and tell him how he's treating you. and tell him that your not gonna stand for him talking to you like hes crazy.. thats emotional abuse what hes doing to you. and if he doesnt stop then you should leave him because hes not worth getting sick over... serioulsy!