My husband doesn't want to have s*x but I do! What should I do?

Question

My husband doesn't want to have s*x but I do! What should I do?

Answer 1

Any answer that you will receive is just a general answer (including mine). There are a lot of things that could be the reason (as you have read from others), age, health, stress & many other things. The 1st. thing to do is talk about it. Tell him that you know something is wrong. Ask the crazy questions (Don't blame yourself), but still say things like "I don't understand why we're not having s*x like we use to or not at all. (DO not to take the blame or lay blame.)

Just like in fair fighting using the word "YOU" feels more like an attack & makes anyone become defensive, that is a fighting word in communicating during a problematic situation..  So however, you decide to talk about the situation, be sure to say "I, I'm" (your not taking blame you're expressing YOUR feelings about what's not happening.) Use the words "us & we" the word YOU will just defeat the purpose.Tell him "I miss us being together, sexually. Is there something wrong with me? What's going on with us that s*x has just gone away.

After all is said & done.  Try doing surprises (If there are children send them to visit someone overnight & put a blanket on the floor with candles, fruit, wine or sparkling apple cider" make it romantic & see where it goes from there.

If all else fails talk to your doctor or get councilling Even you need to have a means of venting.  Do get toys to satisfy some of your needs they do help.  Not the same intimate feeling but the same results.

Toys can be a part of anyones s*x life.  He may like to use them with you or sometimes likes to just watch you use them. Oral s*x is also a good stimulant.  Try it when he's asleep, this is a great way to be brought out of a sleep.  Try not to take it personally if he says what are you doing.  Just tell him that you wanted to wake him up with a nice surprise.  If he's not receptive roll over & have a good cry. sometimes that can also open up the lines of communication.

Some may tell you that you're lowering yourself but when you love someone it's not lowering yourself it's trying to help work out a problem.

Everything doesn't have to become a "woman's movement issue".

Good luck. And remember you have to make yourself happy too!

Answer 2

Why doesn't he want to have s*x?

Answer 3

Usually when men dont want to have s*x it could mean that maybe they are getting it from somewhere else. I would check to see what he's up to if I were you.  

Answer 4

Seduce him, I mean the man has hormones doesn't he?

Answer 5

The best thing would be to talk about the issue with him.

Be open and honest about how it makes you feel, and about what you want.

Allow him to be open and honest about what's going on with him in his life that might keep him from wanting to be intimate with you.

Best case scenario he's stressed about something.

Worst case scenario he could be suffering from health related issues like ED or high blood pressure that prevent him from performing in the bedroom. He may be embarrassed about telling you.

And worse still, he may be cheating.  I was in a 5 year relationship and when the s*x stopped for a while, I began to wonder what was going on.  

I asked my man and got the answer I was dreading...he was having s*x with other women.

Hopefully that's not the situation with you, but you never know.  

Best of luck!

Answer 6

You can always give me a call.  

Get him to a Dr and have his testosterone level checked.  If that checks out ok and he is still un-interested, then the above applies.

I live in warm and sunny Florida.

Answer 7

since the question is in "pregnancy" I suppose you are pregnant and your husband doesn't want to have s*x with you. maybe he is afraid he might hurt the baby. As long as the pregnancy is fine and there is no medical reason for you not have s*x, it is ok to have s*x. next time, take your husband with you to the doctor and he could ask all the things he is concerned with.  

Answer 8

You need to find out why your husband doesn't want to have s*x. This could mean many things, either he's going through something personal right now that he doesn't want you to know about. Maybe he's upset with you about something ,and he's punishing you by withholding s*x, or he's having s*x with someone else. It is really important that you find out whats going on with your husband.

Answer 9

find out what his problem is  or get a vibrator

Answer 10

buy a vibrator then when he is ready hand it to him and tell him to go f**k himself!!

Answer 11

Whats your phone number?

Answer 12

why would a guy not want to have s*x? thats just weird

Answer 13

Usually the problem is the other way around. It's hard to find a man who doesn't want to have s*x. He may have a hormonal or sexual problem he doesn't want to tell you about. Worst case scenario (let's not jump to conclusions), he could be cheating on you.

You have to talk to him. Communication is the #1 way to ensure a good s*x life.

Answer 14

Entice him!

Make sure your house is nice and clean. Take a nice bath, spray on a nice body spray(nothing strong or offensive) put on a night gown. Be playful and raunchy, after all this is your husband and there's nothing wrong with acting like this. Give him a nice sensual massage, specially in his hot spots.  

Answer 15

Find out his reasons 1st. If he is having medical problems then be patient. I cant have s*x due to painful pelvic dysfunction and I'm heavily pregnant, i've asked my partner to be patient and compassionate to me.

If however your hubby just refuses for no good reason then i would advise him that I will reconsider the whole relationship.