My husband doesnt appriciate us at all

Question

I have been with my husband for 10 years and I am the type of person to just let everything go but now I have a kid and we have had some bad issues before and after the birth of my son. he really doesnt want to grow up he wants to hang with his pals and do things with them I dont aprove of (lets just leave it at that) and not spend any time with his son except for now and then. well im fed up with it but everytime I try to say anything to him he is sweet to me and loves me. I cant say it to him and I cant leave either and I dont understand why this is so hard to do because he doesnt desirve us but I love him

Answer 1

It doesn't sound like you are willing to do anything to change the situation. And you really didn't ask a question, it's more like venting.

Not trying to be mean, just honest.  

Answer 2

Well, doesn't sound like any advise you are given is going to make a difference.  Makes me wonder "why are you even asking a question".

Personally, you sound rather miserable, but perhaps it is some of your own doing.  You have got to get a backbone, and let him know how you feel.  I am sure he is not a mind reader.  If he loves you he will make the change necessary.  Otherwise, I suggest you accept him as a loving husband and father, and find an interest of your own.  

You have to make your own happiness whether in or out of a relationship-sooner you learn that the better off you will be.