My husband got caught w/weed ..should I stay w/him???

Question

He was in jail b/4 once in 1995 for drug charges. It might sound crazy but he is a good man with a big heart and I love him very much . He has been trying hard to get a job and no one wants to hire him. I go to school full time and work part time. He does autobody here and there for people he knows. It's been real tough. He just decided 4 months ago to sell on the side for extra money. I don't agree and keep telling him to quit. Last night he was caught w/an ounce of weed and $500 to bail him out. His court date is in 3 weeks. I'm pretty sure he will go to jail. We have a 2 year old together (he never does it in front of him). I married him for better or worse but I don't know if I should stay by his side or move on.. he promised he would quit... please help

Answer 1

I don't know. Do you enjoy the prospect of backing his criminal enterprise with the money you pay to keep him out of jail? Like the prospect of having your home turned upside down, should the police arrive at 4 a.m. with a warrant. How about your kid telling one day how he always knew when the police were there, because the doorknob sailed across the room and daddy jumped out the window? Like having CPS crawl up your butt for months and maybe place your child out for a while to give them time to investigate whether you're dealing and using, too, or if you just neglect your child by staying with a drug dealer? How about maybe one day losing your house or maybe losing your car because he sold something more serious out of it?

The "better or worse" part meant the things that anyone should reasonably anticipate happening to a partner, the kind of thing that could happen to them themselves when they'd expect their spouse to hang in there with them. Would you stay if he abused your child? That's a "worse." Would you stay if he moved his mistress in with you? That's a "worse."  

Answer 2

That would be a silly reason to end your marriage.

Stay with him.  

Answer 3

Im sorry, but if hes lieing about this, and immature as well, what else is he doing behind your back.  Next Question you post may be My Husband Got Caught With Another Women,...Should I Stay With Him....Im sorry, but it will not be worth it to be hurt in the long run, enjoy your life now instead of worrying about this, and him and all the situations he will bring to the table! Good Luck and Best Wishes Honey!!

Answer 4

Do you love him?? then OF COURSE YOU STAY WITH HIM....i mean come on maybe he was just tryin to help out with the kid...tell him its got to stop and make him believe you...remind him he has a son to think about...does he really want his sons memory of his dad to be behind bars?

hope that helped

Answer 5

the fact that he may smoke some weed isn't bad, but if you leave him because he was trying to provide for your family by selling weed would be wrong. maybe if you give him an ultimatum, he may try to get a job and do better, good luck

Answer 6

Your answer lye's in your heart. How long are you going to live like this . Going to school and working part time, I'm sure there was something out there he could have done. You have to think about yourself and your child right now, Can you continue to support him and your family? And this could  get much worse. You have so much to decide right now, Lets hope you make the best choice for you and you child. Easy money sometimes has a high price . My opinion I would leave him, but that is me. Being cheated on and selling drugs is where I draw the line. no excuse for it.

Answer 7

stay with him it is only pot. it is not like it's a hard drug like heroin or anything like that. a little weed never hurt anyone it actually been known to help alot of people in alot of ways. And if he needs a good lawyer go to this website http://norml.org/index.cfm?Group_ID=3445

Answer 8

"For better or for worse, through thick and through thin"

It's worse and it's getting thick.

Stay by his side.  

Answer 9

Unfortunately, it sounds like your husband isn't willing to stop selling drugs, since he already knew the consequences from being in jail the first time, but kept right on selling drugs. I understand that he's probably desperate to help support you and your son, but if he really cared about your family's future together, he would have kept working at fixing cars, since he was making honest money, instead of going back to selling drugs.