My husband got married 12-30-2007 and i dont know if this is normal or not?

Question

he is in the army, so we have had so rough times. we have just recently learned to get over the army stuff and just deal with it and not fight about it cause we have no choice about some of it. well i want to renew our vows already. we are trying to have a baby and we are so madly in love with each other. and i want to express those feeling to him all over again. is it weird that i have thought about renewing our vows already? he means the world to me and all i want to do is spend the rest of my life with him and have his child. i love him with all my heart. is it weird that i want to renew already?

Answer 1

Renewing your vows so soon is a bit strange. Maybe in about ten years, I could see renewing your vows because of the length of time in the marriage, but you are still newlyweds. You don't have to renew what is already new. Couples renew their vows as a statement that despite the time that has passed, the love remains the same.

Answer 2

i think you should wait at least another few years you can express your love for him other ways. its only been 7 months try being married 10 or so years thats experience of a marriage.

Answer 3

There isn't a right or wrong time in a marriage to renew vows. If you feel like doing it a year into your marriage then do it.  It's more common to do it later on in the marriage, but do whatever feels right for you two.

Here's another idea for you if you aren't sure about the renewal of your vows: Buy a journal and write it whenever you have the urge from now til your one year anniversary. Then on 12-30-2008 give him your journal as part of your gift. If you have a hard time writing in your own words sometimes then find love quotes, poems, songs, lists of things you love about him (personality or physically), or your hopes and dreams as his wife, etc. Anything that reminds you of your relationship with your husband. Whatever you decide to do Good Luck

Answer 4

I think you should go for it. I may be a little to early but do what you want.

Answer 5

Yes it's weird! You've only been married for 7 months. I think you could use your imagination and find a better way to show him how much you love him other then to marry him every year.

Before he goes to Iraq, buy yourself something s**y to wear and fix him a really romantic candle light dinner.

After he leaves, write to him often and send him a lot of pictures of you.

Answer 6

no its not weird. you should do it

Answer 7

yes, very weird...

can't you just tell him to his face????

Answer 8

First, most people don't renew their vows after one year; but that does not make it wrong or weird.  Under the circumstances, I think it makes a lot of sense.

I do like EMJ's idea of journaling your thoughts, etc.

As far as him being away and not being able to renew your vows on your first anniversary, what about doing it via internet?  With web cams, etc, two people can be together even when they are thousands of miles apart.  I realize that his situation probably limits him with the ability to have access to a web cam, but if he talks with his unit chaplain they may be able to work something out for you.

Hope all goes well for you!  May God bless your willingness to stick out the tough times and make it work!

Answer 9

i think its just fine. but i would talk to him about it to see if he feels the same way about renewing your vows. its not a bad thing at all. but most people wait allot longer than a year or two after they get married to renew their vows.  

Answer 10

no, i don't believe its weird!1in-fact, i think its wonderful, that you can hold on to those feeling of love for him,when you barely see him, or have to worry so much?i believe you two pro bally deserve a renewal of vows, not a whole wedding over again, but a professing of your love to each other and god, it may help to continue to hold you together in the face of this evil world?

Answer 11

it's way to early... wait atleast twenty yrs... or get a divorce and start over....  

Answer 12

Honestly it should not take a ceremony to tell him how you feel. You've only been married less then a year, find a way to talk to him, tell him how you feel, and have real communication. Otherwise your marriage will fail.

Answer 13

no its not that weird...but why dont you do it on your 1 year anniversary...that would make it really special :)