My husband has a hard time with our baby!Help?

Question

My husband has a hard time with our 6month old lil girl. She's gets so fussy with him pretty much all the time.She knows who he is she responds to him as a child does to there dad (when there 6month old). She will be okay and a happy child when he has her sometimes. I don't know what to do he gets so upset cuz she spits up all the time and she cries and cries(not colic confirmed with doctor), She just doesn't give him a break no one else really has a hard time with her. He gets in such a bad mood when she gets like that. I hate coming home when he has had a hard day like that. I try helping him saying do this and try something different, or do what I do and all he says is I did I did I did well you must not be doing it the right way cuz she ain't liken it to much so shut up and do how I say she'll stop crying. Then when I show him how I do it he gets pissed saying you never told me and the same **** that every woman deal with.the normal"I told you,you just don't listen" It's his birthday today which makes this day even harder he can't enjoy some time to relax I know having a baby is hard work but I find it so much d**n easier then he makes it all out to be. What can I do to help him. Why does she always have a hard day with him? Oh he loves her to death he is his world but he has a lil bit of a short string when he can't calm her down or he doesn't ever know what to do.He is a great dad honest he just has a hard time with her. Help has any other woman had a hard time with this and what did you do, does it get better.

Answer 1

First and foremost, at no offense to the father, he needs to come to terms with the fact that spitting up, crying, etc are all part of being a father.  Being at home all day with a 6 month old isn't very glamourous and it's not supposed to be.  The best thing I can suggest is to sit down with him when your daughter is sleeping, let him know that you sympathize greatly with his frustrations and ask him what you can do to help.  

What you can do to help may not be giving him something else to remember to do when she gets fussy, it could be something as simple as preparing him a meal or two the night before so he can eat quick and easy.  Maybe even take a look at the TV guide and see if any shows/movies he likes will be on that day and write them down for him.  Also, 6 months is a great age for exploring toys, so you could buy a little mat or toy that she can only play with during Daddy time, so it will be fresh and different for her.

Answer 2

you poor thing. he baby is probably responding to his anger or his stress babies sense things and if you are upset baby will feed off this. does he spend a lot of time with her? he will have to learn to relax and realize it is o if a baby cries you just take a deep breath and do what you can for her. I'm very lucky with my 2 girls my husband keeps them during the day while i work he works 3rd shift. so far he has just had the one i go back to work next week and he will have both of them all day ages 4 years and almost 3 months. we will see if he can handle it. I do think it will get better but he will have to work at it spending time with her maybe at first with you there but if baby cries dont go rescue him right away give them some time to work it out. also maybe let him do things his way instead of telling him what to do.

Answer 3

I can tell by your message you are stressed out.  Does you husband a stay at home dad?  Does he get tense or scared when he does holds you daughter.  Babies can sense stress and fear.

Answer 4

Our daughter has always responded in a similar fashion to my husband.  He doesn't get upset at her so much as he gives up easy.  She is 2 now, and is turning much more into a daddy's girl.  I always make it a point to talk good about him to her, and get excited when he gets home from work.  I don't know why kids do what they do, but I'm sure things will get easier eventually.  

Answer 5

im in the same position.... he loves her to peices but has 0 patience... when she cries he will take her and try to calm her down... but when she doesent he just cant handle it and gets mad and hands her back to me.... and my problem is not fixed... if you fix yours lemme kno how it goes lol

Answer 6

Tell him to relax and not be so nervous. Like the previous poster said babies do sense things like that.

My mother said I was the same way with my dad when I was a baby but the older I got the more attached to him I was. I was attached at the hip with my dad from the time I was walking until about 12yrs old.

Answer 7

I have a 7 month old boy and he can be very moody, one day his dad is the best person in the world and the next he wont even look at him. Babies will be babies. My son also has off days with me, which can be quite upsetting considering I'm the one who plays with him, changes his nappy and feeds him and cleans up his sick etc etc. Just life I'm afraid. Maybe she picks up on him not being very happy with her, i know my son knows when he`s annoyed me and it just makes him worse, so that's when i have to take time out and sort my own attitude out, once ive done that everything gets back to normal again with him. They`re very perceptive little critters and i don't think many people give them credit for just how much they pick up on our emotions.

Answer 8

have him relax. babies can sense his tenseness (is that a word?) you know waht i mean.