My husband has been getting to know another woman?

Question

He started acting differently and I quickly noticed. I saw a girls number in his phone and I called her, she said they recently met and he never told her about me. She know nows hes married and she still talks to him. We have been together for years and I dont want to throw our relationship away over this. I've been asking him what his plans are for our relationship. He says he still wants to be together, but I see he is still talking to her, when I ask about her he doesnt say anything, he just brushes me off. Should I try to talk to him one more time about her, or just call it quits after all these years?

PS- I cheated on him a few years back and he forgave me, so I kinda feel like I should be willing to forgive also.

Answer 1

if he is still talking to her after u spoke to him then it doesn't appear he is willing to give this woman up. when your married this isn't a good thing to know your sharing a husband with someone else, who knows he is married but continues to talk to him.confront him, don't allow this to go on, u can forgive but has he asked u to forgive him?

Answer 2

There is something about us guys that cause us to defer to the one most "dependant" on us. What I mean is that we tend to favor the girl who would be most lost and distraught without us in their lives. (I am speaking this in the context of having two women at once). If I was to choose between the stronger girl, or the weaker, I would probably choose the one I thought weaker. I can't explain this.

So if you want your husband, act like you need him. Call him more often, and show some vulnerability. Let him know your weaknesses. This should confuse him for awhile... seeing that he already has an emotional bond to the other women. But don't throw in the towel, I think he has needs that you have been failing to fulfill. I think a good nite out with him would bring back some much needed fire in ur marriage. So take him out, and fulfill the side of him you have been ignoring. And don't ask him if he wants to go out, just take him out regardless (plan it though).

One more thing, and this is pretty graphic for some to read, but let him wake up to "head" once in awhile. Love has a lot to do with actions... do these actions a few times and you should confuse the heck out of him, and he'll be willing to treat you more like the princess you are.

Answer 3

so you believe what goes around comes around and you deserve to be cheated on and be put second. Look let him know he has to choose you or her he will probably choose her new and exciting that's how men think but if you are okay with him having s*x with her it's your life and live it and deal with it

Answer 4

How can you forgive something that he won't even admit to?  

Answer 5

ok sweetie! i really understand what you are going thru! is not easy to make your husband stop talking to a girl that he really wants to talk! just tell him tell me the truth! do you like this girl?? if he saids no tell him why didn't he mention to her that you have a wife! sweetie just let him talk! if they talk doesn't mean he is going to cheat on you! have faith and trust! but if he likes this girl just let him go. after that if he comes back to you he loves you if not just find your happinest in another person that can make you happy! also i just you to know that if you cheat years also doesn't mean your husband has to cheat! and you have to forgive him! no love yourself for others to love you! good luck sweetie

Answer 6

You cheated on him, and he forgave you, I guess it is his turn now.

Answer 7

Okay If you did the same thing to him he thinks it's alright for him 2 do it to you.You need to understand that he might not forgive you 100% about that and that might be what brought him to this.On the other hand just because you cheated on him does not give him that right (in my eyes). This weekend you should go out with your husband to dinner and a movie or something and talk about things.You also want to do things with him don't let him forget about your love because he might end up leaving you for this women.Just remember be strong and stand up and fight for your man back!Good luck!

Answer 8

I don't think you have anything to forgive!

Just because you cheated on him, does not mean that he is a cheater, nor does it mean that he necessarily has any intention to be one either. Don't make judgements about him based upon your moral code.

He is talking to another woman. Talking!! Just because you weren't able to let it stop there doesn't mean that he doesn't have the capacity for a little restraint and conducting a relationship with the proper decorum.

You have spoken to his female friend, so she knows now that he is a married man. I do think he should have told her that first ... and I do think he should have told you about his friend. Perhaps he was going to, but you got in first and pried into his phone records. They are continuing their friendship now anyway, so unless he is doing something that is an actual threat to your marriage for some valid reason (talking isn't one) then there really isn't much for you to say or do, other than keeping an eye on it to ensure it doesn't escalate into anything improper. I don't think it's anything more than a friendship now though.  

Answer 9

well he needs to get to know her AND LET YOU GO!! It doesn't matter if you cheated or not, this shouldn't be his way to "get you back" and BOTH of you all are in this relationship and doing "t*t for tat" because she did--I am kinda scenarios don't work. someone needs to put their foot down and quit reacting to the other persons actions. Oh he's mad, I'll be mad, she cheated I'll cheat, He didn't speak to me, well I'm not gonna speak to him

Don't let him brush you off. any man that brushes you off doesn't want to fess up to his actions and wrong doings and he may not be ready to tell you...but don't let him string you along because he wants to brush you off like a d**n nat around his ear. You are his WIFE regardless and that title deserves more respect, honesty and answers. Regardless of him cheating, you need to find out what is going on. If you wanna talk again then fine. Keep a mental record of how many times you have asked about this mistress and if he keeps giving the same answer or NO answer then he's not gonna give you an answer in the future (unless he starts to bring her around)

YOU DON'T NEED THIS EMOTIONAL TORMENT, FRUSTRATION, EMOTIONAL STRAIN, LACK OF SLEEP, AND RACKIN YOUR BRAIN ALL DAY WHEN HE AIN'T EVEN THINKIN ABOUT WHY YOU UPSET

Answer 10

If he's not able to com mitt and be faithful to you, you should probably leave. Do you want to spend the rest of your life worrying about him giving you a "payback"? I wouldn't. You screwed up, he forgave you. Now he's dinking around and he's not being honest. Tell him to either sh*t or get off the pot.

Answer 11

i think that its his turn to cheat on u now! Or he thinks that any ways!He feels sense u did it now its his turn!Or what he could be doing is actually it could be pay back time for him! Mabye he will stop when he is ready mabye he wont stop!  

Answer 12

Well, unless he cheats on you, what exactly are you 'forgiving'?

And, now you see how it feels to be cheated on.

Some men can bear a grudge for a long time.