My husband has changed, help?

Question

We hardly talk anymore, almost anything I say upsets him, I try to make him laugh or spoil him so he would change his depressing attitude but it always turns to an argument, he is changed. He is like this for two days now, he is hard to deal with and very moody. I don't know what happened to him, I confronted him today, and asked why the sudden change what's going on, he said it's nothing, it's in my head, but I know it's not, what do you think is happening? and what should i do?

Answer 1

He's only been like this for two days!? Cut him some slack, then! Maybe he's just depressed or sick or going through a rough time. Give him a week, then sit him down and talk to him about it. If he is having a hard time, encourage him to get help. But DON'T let him get away with mistreating you. It is ok to have a bad few days. But it is never ok to take it all out on your spouse. In any case, give him a few days to collect himself.

If refuses to talk after a few days, then you know there is a bigger, underlying problem. In that case, I urge you to get marriage counseling. A counselor can help you uncover what the real problem here is, and help you both find a constructive resolution. Make an appointment, then ask him to go with you. If he refuses, go yourself. It will really open your eyes.

Good luck!

Answer 2

gave him just a little time =)

if he's been like that for a week or two... then confront him again. and be very calm. tell him that it's affecting you now.

Answer 3

Well... if he hasn't been like this before then yes he may be changing..

all you really have to do is have a very serious talk with him. ask him is there a problem at work ? just tell him that you love him very much and whatever he is going through you can help him out.

let me tell you i don't know how old you are but marriage takes alot of work. so just don't bother with it, it might just be one of those days, but if you love him alot then just wait and see if it Carry's on to long tell him that you will not go through with it and you cant have a marriage like this.

Answer 4

well just say to him can we talk like really talk and tell me wats really goin on because your not yourself if that dont work then just try to aviod him for a day or to see wat happens then well good luck <3

Answer 5

2 Days...its likely something happened at work or friends or family that he is having a hard time dealing with...Do you know the notion of time? Guys are drilled to keep their emotions to themselves whe they grow up in aspiration to becoming men. So, just lay off a little...when he comes to grip with what is bothering him...just be there...he might open up...Take Care

Answer 6

its only been two days give him a little space now if it last longer than a week its time to do some investigating and see whats going on because he more than likely wont just come out and tell you  

Answer 7

its probably because he is married....

marijuana can fix that real quick and he will open up like a book... There must be a problem

Answer 8

could be anything. some "hardened" guys are like that. Strong silent type. Try to hold everything inside. tell him it's safe to open up and express himself. He may not know how.  

Answer 9

keep tring to talk to him, set aside some time for just you two and when he comes home let him cool down from work or whatever, us guys need about 15 to 20 mins to adjust to home life. talk it out im sure yall will be fine. just work on it

Answer 10

maybe he is with another women and he's trying to get rid of you  

Answer 11

Give hime space and ignore him like he does you! see what happens! meanwhile while he's taking a shower...check his wallet! every single little hidden spot! for anything weird! and check through his stuff everything! and then possibly go inside his car while he is in the shower and look through everything! even trunk! lol under seat, glove everything! check his phone too for incoming calls outgoing, check bills if need be! maybe his online stuff ? just to be sure! nothing weird is going on and rule that out! cause if its work or family stuff it shouldnt be so hard to talk about this with you right.........?

So where does that leave things ? just do some searching! if you notice he takes his cell and or wallet with him in the restroom while he is showering or leaves it on purpose in his pants and takes his pants off and leaves it in the restroom on purpose! then be suspicious!

cause he can simply say...I just took my pants off ! Dont even ask!

while hes in the shower I would  grab his stuff out of his pants! wether he seen or not!  but try to do it without him knowing!

cause he should be able to talk to you! and not act so awkward right......

Men can be sneaky! but not too sneaky if your smart!

Answer 12

Maybe hes hiding something form you.

You have to work after 2 years in a relationship.

communication is key.

So sit him down, and listen to what he has to say.

be emotional, it makes them feel more comfortable

Answer 13

I would bring it up again.  This is so familiar, and I'm going through a divorce.  He still might not talk with you.  My husband never admitted to anything.  He'd poo poo it  Then, he decides he wants a divorce.  Talk while you still can.

Answer 14

I really couldn't tell you why because he isn't sharing, and I'm not jumping to conclusions but it sounds like he might be attracted, seeing, or maybe sleeping with someone else and thats why he can't talk to you.  Maybe he had a issue you at work or maybe he blew all your savings.  But my husband kind of changed and picked arguments with me when he was cheating because he had a guilty consience.  Hopefully he just had a bad day and its not as big as I said but Good Luck!!!

Answer 15

Only two days...you don't really have to be worried yet.  It's probably something from work that's bugging him.  He probably thinks that he's dealing with it well, and not acting strange!

Give him some time, be open and let him know that you are there for him, but don't pressure him to open up!

If it lasts for longer then a week, I'd confront him again.

Answer 16

it's only been two days.  give him a little time.  He may just be in a bad mood, work may suck, his team may have lost, any number of things.  If this continues for a few weeks I'd start to worry, but just a few days it's not a big deal.  Everyone has days where they are 'off' and sometimes that lasts a few days.  

Give him some space and help him with stuff when he asks.  Don't, under any circumstances, become pushy or 'bi@#$y'.  Once things get back to normal ask him what was up and-together-try to find ways to avoid that same thing later.

Answer 17

Honey I honestly think that he is either interested in another woman or he is seeing another woman. Men always give themselves away... I would just give him his space. Don't try to hound him about what's gong on and why he has changed because it will lead to an argument! Just watch his behaviors... Continue to do your job as a wife (which is all you can do anyways) and just see how things go. If it continues you might want to see a marriage counsler or do a little detective work.

But I hope every goes well.

Answer 18

Two days?  You are all freaked out about a change that's lasted two days?

If anything you say upsets him, stop saying things to him.  If trying to make him laugh or spoiling him causes an argument, stop doing those things.  Stop trying to figure out what's wrong with him.

What you should do is leave him alone and give him a break so he can think.  It's quite possible that this is not all about you, that it has something to do with work or his relatives or a friendship or money, and he's trying to work it out and figure out what he can do.  Your insistence that he 'share' with you is probably driving him nuts, particularly when he DID share with you that it was something that was "in his head" and you rejected that explanation.  How could you possibly "know it's not" in his head when you don't know what it is?

Answer 19

He's doing something he shouldn't be, probably cheating on you, unless you have recently done something to make him very mad.

Answer 20

Has your weight gone up? You taking care of yourself, getting your nails done, staying hot?

I think it helps if you shower and put on some lotion that smells nice before bed. I hate to go to bed dirty.  

Answer 21

i would definetly just sit him down and have a talk about it. maybe something is bothering him that you dont know about!

Answer 22

Has anything else in your relationship changed? Is there a possibility your husband is abusing drugs or alcohol  or maybe having an affair? How long have you been together & has he ever had this problem before? Another thing to consider is has he ever been diagnosed with long term depression? I am married to a man who has a drug problem, he's had it for years(before I met him & he was very good at hiding it)he also has long term depression which he doesn't seek help for. The drug problem causes him to lie, break promises & all sorts of negative problems. Our marriage is a mess. Get help, together if you can but he if won't get help, then get it for yourself.

Answer 23

It appears since this is a sudden on-sought, that it is job related, the stress of the job, or the realization that he works full time and the money is not enough to do everything he wishes, all of these things could lead to his depressed attitude.

Take him out for a drink or two, just relax with him, maybe he will relax enough to finally talk.  Just listen and let him get the problem off his chest, he most likely is not looking for an answer, just a buddy to tell his problems to, so be his buddy.  Good luck.

Answer 24

Two days is not very long.  People can be moody or depressed for a period of time and then just snap out of it.

Try to be supportive. Confronting him won't help as you already found out.  Keep the lines of communication open and if he remains depressed suggest he see a physician.

Answer 25

Did you know that the gravitational pull of the moon affects men's moods?  Maybe he is on his period.  I can't remember what it is called but it is a fact that men have these periods of moodiness depending on the gravitational pull of the moon.  See if it doesn't happen again next month.

Answer 26

Things may have changed so that is ehy you have to give him his space.

Answer 27

Sounds like something is bothering him or upset him but for some reason does not want to talk about it. I would just let him know you are worried and you know something is wrong.  

Answer 28

2 days?  thats a typical mood swing.  if it lasts like a month i would be worried.  just like us women have our moments so do men.  and riding him about it is only gonna make it worse.  give it a couple days and if hes still like this, just simply write him a sweet note and leave it for him one morning saying "i can tell you have something on your mind, just know that i'm always here for you if u want to talk"...something like that.  good luck!

Answer 29

Try not to figure it out guys hate when you try to fix them.  Just be supportive and tell him that you are there if he needs to talk.   Give him some space and maybe you should go out with some friends and start having fun.  You could be way to clingy to him which can cause him to get upset.

Answer 30

i say you should wait a while, i thought you were gonna say he had been this way for a few weeks now but it's just a few days so give it some time. if the situations doesn't change then you two should seek counseling cause there is obviously something bothering him