My husband has dreams of fondlinhg women that he has had crushes on in the past, "nothing happens", whats up?

Question

My husband has dreams of fondlinhg women that he has had crushes on in the past, "nothing happens", whats up?

Answer 1

If your that concerned try and seduce him. Peak his interest in you more. Not really that hard.

            In most relationships both party's stop trying as hard to appeal to the other person and things start to slip here and there.

       Send the kids(if there are any) to the grandparents and wear something provocative. His dreams should change shortly.

Answer 2

I have dreams of fondling any woman I lay eyes on.  Alot happens.

Answer 3

congratulations!! he's not g*y

Answer 4

His dream suggests that he still holds somewhat common male leanings that have become decidely uninhibited in his dreaming for some reason, likely a venting of subconscious frustrations.

'Fondling' holds 'shock value', not so much 'gratification'.  'Nothing happens' is 'assurance', it's innocent enough.  What one needs to know is 'why this?'

Unless he speaks of it in his sleep it is most unusual of him to share these with you.  That he does may point at an underlying cause.  On the surface all may be well enough, but a dream of this sort and sharing it with a spouse frequently indicates a frustration in the marriage with something.  By sharing it a 'message' is passed, one even he may not have consciously articulated to himself.

Is it possible that he feels that he must compete with someone or something else for your attention, or affection at times?  It could be a minor and quite innocent distraction that annoys him.  You may spend time watching movies or on the computer when he'd like your time.  It can be as simple as a special pet or two that you dote on.  It can easily be children if they are in the picture.  We all need our own time too, regardless of those other needs and responsibilities or our own 'maturity'.  It could be other family members or friends, even others in some real, understood need of you.  Pets are very common competitors.  By the way - men are just as guilty in that way as women, and probably just as often.

But people can get that way over a feeling of having to 'compete'.  We guys always have a bit of that 'little boy' in us that can rebel in small ways.  We like for you to notice it, too - that gets some attention that we might think we could not get otherwise, even if the premise is a bit (or very) weird.  In fact, a bit weird is something we easily concoct - we're attracted to those mechanisms that we subliminally sense will raise an eyebrow, or shock a bit.

Think that over - if you see something in your life that you realize may be doing this, try turninig away from it and deliberately toward him now and then just for the sake of reward for him, no other reason.  Maybe those old crushes will retreat and he'll appreciate all the more the one who truly committed herself to him.  

In fact, you don't have to compete wiith them, they are forced and ultimately cannot compete with you - your presence is real (and hopefully respectfully treated), theirs is the wispy stuff of fantasies recalled.

All the best to you.